CAHMS - Follow Up Letter Sent to DC - Is This Normal?

[RockinHippy]

She's only just turned 13

It's a new CAHMS mentor & I just thought it a bit odd, as previously it has all been addressed to me - does it change at 13 ?? Or has the new girl made a mistake ?

TIA

Anyone

DD gets letter and we usually get a copy. DD is 17 though. I would raise it and insist on a copy if I were you. We had one assessment from a different team which only went to DD and we never did get to see it which I found very irritating but as she is 17 I felt it was up to her. At 13 I would definitely be contacting CAMHS and requesting copies.

Thank you Claire that's kind of what I thought, but we are pretty new to all this so I wasn't 100% sure & they are being helpful, so I didn't want to complain unnecessarily

Sorry, Claire - autocorrect to a friends spelling

& again

DD is 14 and she got one but we also had a copy.

I don't get to see anything that is sent to my DD. She got an assessment at 16. I think that they follow the wishes of the child.

They are very keen not to do anything behind the child's back. It seems reasonable to me. When my DD was discharged from CAHMs they sent my gp a very detailed letter which ran to 4 pages . I got a copy; DD didn't. I chose to share it with her anyway. DD is 14.

My DD is 7. We recently received copies of a letter to the GP from our latest appointment. Two in one enveloped addressed to me (parent/carer of), and one addressed to her

I have no idea if the school or GP actually received a frigging copy.

A 13 year old would be asked if they wanted the information shared with a parent

All I can suggest to make you feel better is, if she wants to be private you need to grit your teeth and accept it. She will be able to share more with the team, and the consequence should be a better diagnosis and chance of recovery

I've had to accept similar with my (slightly older) daughter. Even in hospital she chose non sharing of information. Unbearable but I had to accept her choice