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9yr dd worrying me

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flippyflapper · 07/04/2015 20:40

Hi everyone,

I will start off with a bit of background.

My dd is a very clever funny enthusiastic little girl, she is so kind hearted thoughtful but very emotional, always has been even as a baby.

My dh (her dad) has a a awful nut allergy so with all my children I have avoided peanuts.
Last year at school.a child told her she had eaten a peanut, when she got home she was having panic attacks saying she felt her throat was closing up , for about 3 days we had it, she wouldn't sleep kept getting up to check she hadn't swollen up throughout the night saying she couldn't breath etc.
I totally took responsibility for this and told her it was my fault for not introducing them earlier chances are she is fine etc etc. That was a whole year ago nothing since on that matter.

Over a course of 3 months she has kept saying she feels sick, she was kept off school stayed in bed no sick but she said she had tummy pains. It's been a few times we have had this I honestly thought nothing of it as there is so much going about.

last Thursday she said she felt sick and I was a bit miffed as we hadn't really been out for her to catch anything but told her to get back in bed rest see how she felt.
She told my mum that she panics she will be sick then feels she can't catch her breath.

The last few days it's been constant she feels sick and feels like something is sticking in her neck, she has been crying and having panic :(

I've talked to her about it and asked what she is worried about and she said she doesn't want to be sick.

I have suffered horrendously with anxiety and panic attacks but for the last 7 years have them fully under control and I just feel like crying for her that she is going through this as this is exactly how I used to be.

She is worried there was something sticking out of her chest (was her rib cage) so i explained her ribs to her etc and she calmed down

I had her friend over today to take her mind off things because when she isn't thinking about it she is fine.

I just don't no what to do

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Fugghetaboutit · 07/04/2015 20:49

Sounds like panic attacks and anxiety about choking/being sick.

I had this as a child and still do sometimes. I didn't tell anyone though so it's good she's told you.

I would talk to your gp about arranging some therapy for it so she can talk it through with someone? If it's affecting her going to school etc I definitely think it's worth talking to your gp. Good luck

Fugghetaboutit · 07/04/2015 20:50

To add, her anxiety about these things needs to be reduced so maybe have a read about cbt and reducing anxiety in children

flippyflapper · 07/04/2015 20:54

Thank you. It's only really came to light since the easter holidays so I'm.not sure how she will be at school.

Right now she has a new computer she got for her birthday and is happily playing

Yes definetly worried about choking .. I used to be the exact same and wouldn't eat meat bread etc as I thought it would get stuck!

I'm hoping once she is back at school again and busy hopefully she won't be thinking about it.

today at the park she was fine then suddenly felt sick and wanted to.go which is so unlike her :(

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Fugghetaboutit · 07/04/2015 21:12

I really hope it's just a phase for her and will stop once she's back at school and busy.

Like you said, keep an eye out but if it starts to affect school and she stay off because of 'feeling sick' - feeling anxious manifests as nausea for me personally, then I would speak to someone x

flippyflapper · 08/04/2015 09:43

Thank you. Yes mine exactly the same when i had it, it completely ruined my life, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy never mind my little girl.

I'm going to try keep her busy the next few days hopefully it will help.

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