6yo and negativity/anxiety

[SunshineofRay]

My DS who has just turned 6 is very negative and I'm not sure how to best handle it.
Some examples ; I suggest something like where to go/what to do- I might say let's go the park/beach etc today and he complains that he doesn't like it there he doesn't want to go (even though he's fine once there and enjoys it.)

Says he's got no friends at school, doesn't like school (does have friendships and is in year 1 so I expect some complaints)
If we do anything new he gets really anxious, worries a lot about things happening (latest is tooth falling out)

I am finding it tough to constantly try and talk him around and don't know what to do to try and help him.
School have noticed he's been a bit emotional just before half term but have said he's usually a happy boy, likes to make jokes and make everyone laugh.

Does anyone have any experience of similar and can advise how to help?

My 7 yo daughter has social communication disorder (she was assessed for Autism but although she scores quite highly she isn't). She doesn't like doing stuff and she would be happier just playing mine craft all day on the computer. She doesn't do it so much now, but last year when she was 6 she often used to say she would prefer to be dead because life was unbearable. Although eloquent, She struggled to express her feelings so her stress was expressed in different ways (tantrums, tics, obsessions etc).

If you feel that it goes beyond what is normal for a child that age don't hesitate to talk to your GP. We were referred to Step2, a child mental health organisation in Herts to help. She also took part in her school's Nurture Group where up to 8 children with behavioural/emotional difficulties in Reception, Yr 1 & 2 had time away from their class over two terms with specialist teachers to help them. They did things like relaxation, play therapy, community building etc. It is helpful to talk to your school's SEN as well as the teacher.

For my daughter we tried to find a balance of not raising her stress levels but still having a normal family life. She does more computer stuff than her peers, but I force her to have play dates or come to the supermarket occasionally (she loathes supermarkets).

Thank you for replying.
He does like the computer but he will only spend half hour or so and say he's had enough and is bored - that's when the negativity comes out if I suggest anything.
He's an only child so it's hard for me to judge it. He can have really good weeks. I don't know if maybe it's a confidence issue - he worries nobody will like him or want to play with him at school (but is fine with clubs he goes to and really enjoys them) but on the other hand He's really good at making friends aswell, he's not shy to approach new children at the park etc.

My 7 year old dd is anxious, not so much negative. I find she's old enough for me to explain about anxiety and how she can help reduce it eg breathing exercises, self talk. I find just having a conversation where we acknowledge that she gets anxious helps.

I was about to post something similar SunshineofRay, I've struggled to 'motivate' my 8 yr old DS this Easter holiday. He has always been clingy as a baby, and never went to his nan, aunties anyone or his dad. He's 8 now and would still rather just stay at home pottering about with me. He enjoys it once he's out, playing with friends, and visiting family, I love having his friends round, but I don't know how to change this negative attitude /anxiety.