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Don't know where to seek help (also posted in parenting)

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Betti · 05/05/2014 17:34

My middle DS is 9 and has behaviour issues. My DH doesn't help. He never shows him any affection, never plays with him, criticises him all the time and is quite aggressive and heavy handed when punishing him. My DS craves my DHs attention. I believe that some of my DS's behaviour is due to the fact that he doesn't get what he needs from his father. I believe my DH had quite a regimented upbringing and have tried talking to him. He always turns it round and says my son behaves how he does because I don't back my DH up (more often than not I don't agree with what he says or does). I think my DS needs to see someone about his low self confidence and his anger management issues but I don't know who to ask for help. I also think my DH needs to speak to someone but he refuses even though I have told him that if it is his behaviour that is affecting our DS, I will leave him and take the children so that the cycle is broken. Can anyone advise who I can speak to about this. I live in the Middle East so things are a bit different here.

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Shells · 08/05/2014 21:22

Hi Betti,
This board is very quiet. I am not an expert but I have found the book 'The Explosive Child' very very helpful. By Ross Greene. Another mumsnetter recommended. It has helped me understand my son's behaviour massively.
It does indeed sound like your husband is not helping things - I feel for you.
Put your son first.

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