Last year DDs father started abusing me (hitting when he lost his temper/ when I tried to leave the relationship) I tried to shield her from it but unfortunately she did she things (and see marks on me) it culminated in him raping me when I told him that our relationship was completely over and I wanted him out of the house (I paid all of the bills as he didn't work). She didn't see anything of that (I hope) but I know she heard things.
We've always been really close (her father only started showing an interest in us when she started school) but since the abuse started she has been very clingy and can't sleep through the night and calls out for me in her sleep (worrying about me, probably). I work full-time in a very demanding job but spend every spare moment with her to try and show that I'm okay, that I'm not going anywhere but she's still very clingy. Her emotions are all over the place (she has a very short temper and has started having full-on meltdowns) and I'm really worried.
We're moving away (too many bad memories) in March so I was wondering if I should see how that goes (if just getting away from that house makes a difference) or if I should push to have her referred for counselling. I (and other family members) have tried to get her to talk but she refuses and changes the subject. She says that she hates her father but I can tell that she misses him (and I feel that she may blame me in the long run as I have pressed charges).
I just don't want to lose her and I can see this leading to such problems in the future. (I know I shouldn't have stayed, but I felt she needed her father around.)
Help!