H and I separated in Sept after telling DD1 in July.
DD2 is 3 and has bounced back, but I'm really worried about DD1 (8) who seemed so mature and coping at first.
She went back to wetting the bed initially (she also did this when dd2 was born) but that has stopped and I thought that maybe her temper and anxiety would clam down
She's always been a bit anxious and likes to be in control, but now she has these great fits of anger when she lashes out (usually verbally rather than physically). She hates me regularly, gets very upset and just can't get herself out of it. She hasn't had as many problems with exH but then he doesn't deal with the day to day stuff and have to say no to her as often!
Recently it's been happening outside of the home too and her Drama teacher has said that she needs to take some time out from the class as 2 weeks ago it was 'the worst drama class in the world' and this wek she said she hated the teacher. She's also been rude to my friend who gives her a lift.
She is also having problems sleeping some of the time (although this has always been a bit of an issue), and she's often just sad - although you wouldn't think it from the happy sounds now!!
I think I've probably let her get away with more than I normally would and now I'm expecting her to accept what I say it's hrad, but it's more than just that.
I really think she or I (and her dad for that matter but he won't accept there's a problem) need to talk to someone to try and work out how to deal with this but I'm not sure how to get help.
Do I go to the GP? Are there charities to approach, has anyone here got any advice?
ExH is being quite difficult (with me) and that's taken up too much of my energy plus just trying to cope myself and I feel bad I've left it this long 