My DS (6) has all the signs. Except that he was a joy in school... until this week when he acted up for teachers. He was violent towards the assistant head and showed the teachers no respect. Assistant head said he was very defiant and very, very stubborn. I chuckled a little as he's like this at home - and has been VERY bad the last few weeks.
I'm not keen on labelling him up with something TBH. I think I've read everything and tried everything to deal with his huffy, aggressive, angry, stuborn behaviour. But I don't want it rolling over into school.
So... has anyone been through similar? Can you advise what's best to do? Get a referral or self-help at home? If self-help, what sort of things can we do to try and manage this? As I said, we've tried everything we can think of with little effect. I know that some things (such as us showing anger) will probably make things worse, but I don't know what will make things better. DH and I both lose the plot with him eventually, because if he can't wind us up, he starts to set upon his little sister, which eventually gets a rise out of us!