Lickedmylollyandneversaidsorry ·
30/08/2025 19:14
Hiya, this is my first thread as I'm usually a lurker but really need some reassurance and help!
So I'm nearly 40 and never had a driving license. I did lessons in my 20s and really really struggled and my instructor pushed me to take my test when I wasn't ready and I failed. It massively knocked my confidence and I decided driving wasn't for me.
Fast forward to now and I have 4 children, one of whom has special needs and not driving is massively impacting my life and family and decided i really need to drive. I started lessons and decided to go automatic and I've massively struggled and had to have lots and lots of lessons and it's got to the point where I've done everything and so has my instructor but I still struggle. Without sounding predicable, I strongly suspect I have adhd and the struggles I have with driving reflects that..... I struggle with focus and concentration, I'm very nervous and anxious and forget everything and get confused during manoeuvres and whether it's in park or drive and whether the wheel is straight. I know these are common things with learners but I'm not a learner anymore.
I was just wondering if anybody else had similar struggles to me as it makes me feel like I'm stupid and a failure and that I'm never going to drive and perhaps I should just give up as its draining me mentally, emotionally and financially!!