hello, this is a longish story so will try to cut it down.
mil and fil fostered children with severe learning disabilites and autism for many years while dp and his brother were children. one particular boy lived with them from when they were all about 8/9 years old and continued to live with them, after fil died and right up till when mil passed away last dec, he is now in his 30's. after mil died he wanted to stay in mils flat with their cat etc, which social services said was ok.
they sort of organised carers to go in everday and check him, he can make his own breakfast, lunch cups of tea etc. they would just go in to prompt him to shower etc. and they would go in in the eve to help him with his tea. we would go round when we could but as we both work and have 2 young children it was impossible to go everyday, twice a day.
it got so that social services didnt send people every day and would ring us all the time, even dp at work, and wich was making us feel that we had to go in all the time. in the end we told dp's foster brother that we were going to stop going round as much so that the social could sort a proper carer out for him instead of gettting us to do it all the time. they would ring us to take him shopping etc, when they get paid a carers allowance to do this for him, not that money is a problem we would have done it but was frustrating having extra things to do with family,work etc.
so we havnt been round scince the summer holidays, we went round last week to go see him before it was the first anniv of mils death and he wasnt there, there was a new family in the flat. the flat was empty of all mils things.
we rung social services friday to find out what was going on and where he was. they refused to tell us where he has gone, she said he had moved at the end of oct and that was it, she wasnt allowed to tell us anymore.
this is very sad,frustrating, he had to spend the anniversary without any of us to see him. can they do this? just take him without telling us they were even going to move him when they kept ringing us up all the time before hand.
the other sad thing is that they've emptied the flat and all of mils belongings, every thing has gone, we have nothing left. even the cat. they have took our tv which he was borrowing and the pc.
my dad has suggested that if they refuse on monday to give us more info that we call the police and some how bring the issue of theft up with them as they have took everything.
what do we do to find out there they have put him and our things.
in my heart i think they have propably dumped everything, which is heartbreaking to think we dont have anything left. ( we live in a 2 bedroom terrace which is why things were wtill in the flat as we have no room to put things at the moment)