How do you feel about family members leaving you to get on with your job? When the adult children come to visit or stay, would you expect them to call you when their parent wants to go to the toilet, for example, or would you expect them to support their own parent? I have no issues doing the personal care for my parent, and have done so when the carer was not around. Equally, I don’t want to overstep or take advantage. I trust the carer, she is doing a very good job, and I want to maintain a mutually respectful relationship.