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Caring for elderly relatives? Supercarers can help

Needing Care when also a Carer

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Vvh86 · 24/06/2025 19:37

I'm not sure if this is the best place to ask, I welcome re-direction if asking elsewhere is better....

I would like to know if anyone has had experience or know what to do if I need to plan a non-emergency but necessary operation (operation is connected to tummy) - they have said I won't be able to drive and will need plan for 6 weeks to heal. I have a 12 year old who does not attend mainstream school only a part time provision for a couple of mornings a week (he gets collected). He needs attention, has ADHD and is Autistic. (Can't cook or put himself to bed but can grab some crisps or yoghurt as a snack.)

They asked who was at home, I said just us. They said I'd need to find support. I don't have family who can step in... If I were to approach friends (they could possibly alternate) I am not sure what help I will need exactly for my post op care but also there is care for my child too...

I guess my questions are where might I find this support or do I need to follow two lines of enquiry? Is there a carer support network for this sort of thing?

Thank you if you have read all of this!! Sorry if I haven't included what I need to include... feeling a bit uncertain and don't feel I have access to the whole of my brain (also neuro-spicy myself!)

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daisyxcx · 24/06/2025 21:14

Oh bless you. It sounds like you are in such a tricky position. I've just found this on the NHS website which might help?

Temporary care
If you have had a short illness or an operation, you might need care after hospital for a short time to get back to normal. This is called reablement, intermediate care or aftercare.
The aim of this type of short-term care is to help you:

  • stay as independent as possible
  • avoid unnecessary hospital stays
Reablement care is available in some areas for free for up to 6 weeks. Hospital staff can tell you if it's offered in your area.
nhs.uk

Care after illness or hospital discharge (reablement) - Social care and support guide

Short-term care for people who need extra support to help their recovery at home.

https://www.nhs.uk/social-care-and-support/care-after-a-hospital-stay/care-after-illness-or-hospital-discharge-reablement/

BreadInCaptivity · 24/06/2025 21:21

You need to contact Adult Social Services for your Local Authority. Explain you are a lone carer.

They will do an assessment based on the Care Act to see if you qualify for support (given your post you probably will if only on a temp basis while you recover).

You may have to make a financial contribution to the support (if any) they offer to you. Depends on your savings and income.

This should be your first port of call.

Vvh86 · 24/06/2025 21:33

daisyxcx · 24/06/2025 21:14

Oh bless you. It sounds like you are in such a tricky position. I've just found this on the NHS website which might help?

Temporary care
If you have had a short illness or an operation, you might need care after hospital for a short time to get back to normal. This is called reablement, intermediate care or aftercare.
The aim of this type of short-term care is to help you:

  • stay as independent as possible
  • avoid unnecessary hospital stays
Reablement care is available in some areas for free for up to 6 weeks. Hospital staff can tell you if it's offered in your area.

Thank you, that looks like something I can look into a bit, I can also see someone has posted about adult social services too which I can look at also. Thank you for finding this

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Vvh86 · 24/06/2025 21:34

BreadInCaptivity · 24/06/2025 21:21

You need to contact Adult Social Services for your Local Authority. Explain you are a lone carer.

They will do an assessment based on the Care Act to see if you qualify for support (given your post you probably will if only on a temp basis while you recover).

You may have to make a financial contribution to the support (if any) they offer to you. Depends on your savings and income.

This should be your first port of call.

Ooh thank you!! This makes a lot of sense!! Thank you! I will speak to them!! Thank you!

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ToadRage · 13/07/2025 19:09

Contact Carers trust. They can provide someone to help you and the person you care for. They can provide emergency care if you have to stay overnight in hospital. They even provide an allowance so you can go away for a few nights to get a break from your care duties.

Vvh86 · 13/07/2025 22:43

@ToadRage thank you so much that is really good to know!

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