Such a mess

[justsayso]

Hi, wasn't sure whether to post here or on the mental health board.
My husband is 3 months into a severe mental breakdown. He's been under the crisis team and I've been off work to support him. I'm waiting for a carers assessment but I'm full time employed in the NHS so probably won't be entitled to anything.
We have a young child who is an age where they still need constant supervision and input.
Due to his mental health he's not safe to be left with her so I'm being run ragged with responsibilities.
I'm just so burnt out. There's no hope on the horizon, and from one day to the next he's up and down. I never know how he will be. He doesn't remember to take his medication properly and doesn't rest enough which has a huge impact on his mental state.
His family are supportive and hands on bit they have gone away today for a week.
I can't stay off work forever, and I just don't know what to do.
The crisis team had suggested admission in January, but there were no beds available and due to my husband's job (I don't want to say too much as it's outing) it wasn't really possible to have him in hospital.
But things just aren't getting better. He's on a whole host of meds, his symptoms aren't really under control, and I'm living on adrenaline most of the day.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for here to be honest. I tried calling the crisis team earlier but they didn't really want to talk to me.

@justsayso sorry to sound harsh but could you have him sectioned??? Then he could get the help he needs and you can breathe. I know it sounds extreme but it might be a solution. At least he will get proper help with his medication and some proper rest x

He wouldn't go into hospital voluntarily, so would end up being sectioned. But his symptoms are so changeable - one morning he will be fine and then by the afternoon he's on the ceiling. So it makes it hard to get a clear picture when people come to see him.
Plus due to the nature of his work being in hospital would cause a huge raft of issues. But it's been on my mind more and more over the last couple of weeks.
We're seeing his mental health team tomorrow so I will have to express my concerns then and hope they're listened to.

If he works in the psychiatric hospital there are things they can do. I have been a mh nurse for 20 years and have known about 4 or 5 staff admitted to different trusts so they're not cared for by colleagues. I understand it's not as simple as getting him sectioned as the criteria for admission is huge nowadays as services are dire.

When his family are back could he stay with them to give you a breather from caring for him so you can focus on your daughter?