My elderly, disabled mum fell recently and broke the top of her arm. She can’t do very much for herself at present and lives on her own. We fortunately have urgent care carers who now come 4 times per day to help her onto the toilet/commode. She is helped downstairs using the stairlift where she stays for most of the day. My two sisters and I have been like a tag team since her fall. Daytimes are ok with the help of the carers but night times are becoming very difficult. She needs the toilet at least twice, sometimes 3 times during the night. We have a commode in her bedroom but one of us has to stay, help to heave her out of bed, change pads, clean up and settle her back to sleep. We all work part time and the continual lack of sleep is becoming very difficult. I bought her some pull ups to wear during the night, in the hope that she would sleep for longer but they did not help. My sister has been in touch with the incontinence clinic for advice but as yet has not had a reply.She is used to broken nights and goes straight back to sleep whilst we lie awake, anxious to get to sleep, yet ready for the next get up!
It is becoming unsustainable as we are all exhausted. If it was just day times we could manage everything between the three of us, but the night times are awful.
What can we do to make things easier for all of us?