Anyone’s parent become disabled when young?

[MrsCremuel]

My mum had a stroke at 50, I was 27. We are a few years in now and the sadness is just hitting me. We got over the immediate crisis, the hospital, moving house, physio etc and now we are at a stage where I think we aren’t going to see much more improvement. She has come far, from not being able to sit up or really speak to being able to speak and walk very short distances.

I feel so very selfish and ungrateful but I miss my old mum. I’ve had a child since and recently I’ve been thinking about how different things would have been if she hadn’t had the stroke. She leads a very limited life now, doesn’t really go anywhere because understandably, it’s very hard for her. I just so want her to enjoy life. My dad is older and her carer and has no get up and go, although he is tired by it all.

Worrying for the future and feeling so hopeless about it all at the moment. She has been very depressed but is coming through it. Has anyone else experienced this? I always thought my parents wouldn’t get ill till I was in my 50s so it was a shock.

Anyone?

My father had a stroke which caused a brain injury at 49 and I was 17. It took me years to come to terms with it. It turned my world upside down over night and he has never been the same person since.

I'm a disabled single parent at 36, if you'd like my perspective?? 🤷🏼‍♀️

My exh became disabled when he was 42, a month before ds was born & I have been disabled since ds was 4. Ds is a young carer & is 17 now.

Hi Op. not the same situation as I'm 34, but my mum had a stroke 8 weeks ago. And she is 67.
We've been told she probably won't make much improvement although she is walking and talking now but she has an attention span of about 1-5 mins only and that's with constant prompting, she needs 24/7 supervision and due to our current circumstances we are having to look at care homes for her.

I also feel like my mum is gone forever and things will never be the same again.
I already miss her.

I'm sorry you had to go through this so soon x

I had a stroke just when my daughter was born. I was 32. I then suffered blood clots which sent me into multi organ failure. I now have a brain tumour. All since my children have been born

@SkodaKodiaqkoda yes please

@Nocutenamesleft I’m sorry to hear that, how have you managed all of that?

My father had a stroke when I was 14. I am an only child and my parents were divorced. I think life probably would have been different but to be honest he was totally amazing. He learnt to walk, talk and even eventually drive again (despite being hemiplegic). There were things we couldn't do (travel abroad, could only have weekends away because of health needs, had to work around hospital appointment and carers), I had to do a lot of caring ( eg helping with washing , dressing, toileting and feeding) and it has impacted upon my own life (career and relationships have been impacted) but to be honest I adored him and although times were hard I loved being with him - laughing, joking and was so proud of him. He remained my father despite being disabled and I feel very lucky to have had him.
I hope things get easier with your family - I know it can be exhausting and very sad at times but for me personally there were many happy times and I feel so honoured to have had him in my life. Good luck with everything.