Why am I taking care of kids that aren't even

[AshleyEllis]

I got married 4 months ago & within those 4 months I've been watching my husband's brothers two toddlers. I have to stay at home & watch the kids since everyone is working. I could have been working in my field of medicine but I'm constantly being told not to because there's no one to watch the kids.

What should I do? I'm sick of it!

Just get a job regardless. You do not have to do what you are told.

Are there cultural reasons why you are so accepting of what others want you to do?

Um, just grow a spine and get a job? This really isn't your problem. Why isn't you BIL's wife doing it?

I'm constantly being told not to

Who is "telling" you?

they are not your kids, they are not your problem. The relatives will have to find another babysitter.. Or SHOCK! HORROR! pay for a nursery. Or you coud suggest that DH gives up work to take care of his broothers kids so you can work.

You dont have to accept this just because you are married. You married the man, not the extended family.

What should I do?

Whatever you like, you're a grown up aren't you?

You're a grown up! Nobody gets to tell you that you can't work.

Find a job and tell the family that you’ll be going out to work.

Are there cultural reasons why you’re expected to be the childcare provider? Are you living with extended family?

What? Why are you babysitting? Say no, get a job!

WTF? Backstory please?
Are you in some form of cult or abusive relationship?

You are not working because you need to babysit children that aren't your own. Wtf is this for real?

Where is the mother of these children? Tell BiL you are not his childcare. Go back to work if that’s what you want to do.

Wtf?

Either you stand up for yourself, get a job and never let yourself be treated like this again, or you end up feeling bitter and used for the rest of your life.
Do you really like your in-laws enough to give up an entire career for them? If they feel strongly that these children need a family member to care for them then one of their parents can do it. You have to stop this, now. Sadly I know this from experience.

I feel like there is a huge backstory here.

Tell your BIL to fuck off! It isn't your problem or responsibility!

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