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Waiting for urgent breast clinic appointment after lump found in my mums breast

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putthatback · 19/06/2026 12:31

Hi I have name changed for this

my mum found a lump in her breast - she lifted up her arms to close her car boot, breast hurt when she did so, she felt around and found a lump which said said is sore. made a gp appointment and gp was concerned … she didn’t like the feel of the lump, and there is a big family history of breast cancer on my mums side. Urgent referral was made, plus a separate referral for genetic testing. Mums appointment came through a day later for 27th June and she has been told she will have a number of tests done in that appointment and find out if she’s in the clear or not on that day.

i am so so worried. I haven’t slept at all and she hasn’t either. She is 63. I have two very young children who she absolutely dotes on - her and my dad have always done the bulk of childcare for us, my mum does the school run for my oldest son every day, both my kids idolise their nana :( my mind has got so carried away with itself. I just don’t want to lose my mum or my children lose someone who is totally devoted to them. I don’t want her to be poorly or her life cut short. I want to go to her appointment with her. My dad will obviously go and her best friend of 40 years wants to go with her too.

please can someone talk to me about their experiences? My mind has got carried away. We have no idea yet if it’s something sinister or not but our family history is not good. My mum has never had any other cancer before. One other breast cancer scare about 15 years ago but nothing else

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Knittedfairies2 · 19/06/2026 12:36

Stop. I understand that this is scary; I found a lump when I was 69 and diagnosed with breast cancer. That was 4 years ago, but I'm fine after surgery and treatment. Waiting for that first appointment is brutal - it really was the hardest part of my experience. Hard to do, but you should just sit on your hands - no googling! - and wait to see what you're dealing with.

putthatback · 19/06/2026 12:38

Knittedfairies2 · 19/06/2026 12:36

Stop. I understand that this is scary; I found a lump when I was 69 and diagnosed with breast cancer. That was 4 years ago, but I'm fine after surgery and treatment. Waiting for that first appointment is brutal - it really was the hardest part of my experience. Hard to do, but you should just sit on your hands - no googling! - and wait to see what you're dealing with.

You are so right. My partner has been very supportive, he talked me down a lot and been very factual about it. Our wedding is next year and i want my mum to be there and to be ok :(

the next few days are going to drag and it’s going to kill me

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Knittedfairies2 · 19/06/2026 12:40

You need a project to distract you; I sorted and cleaned wardrobes and cupboards that hadn't been touched for ages!

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