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Are doctors supposed to tell you if they suspect you have cancer?

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Slidesandsandpits · 20/04/2026 13:36

My Mum has had some test results back that could indicate cancer- raised blood calcium on two occasions that isn’t caused by her parathyroid gland. She’s also lost about a stone and half quite quickly and had a DVT, but about 5 weeks ago she became very unwell with a bad chest infection and ate basically nothing for about a fortnight, then hurt her knee and wore a leg brace continually/barely moved her leg for about 4 days. This was before the DVT, so I imagine there is a chance that could have caused it.

She’s been googling (as we all have, to be honest) and she’s become fairly convinced that she’s got cancer and that is the cause of the DVT, the weight loss and the high calcium. I’m aware it could be, but apparently none of the doctors she’s seen have mentioned cancer to her. Are they not supposed to tell you if they think that’s what it might be? I have been referred under the 2WW before and the GP honestly told me that it could be cancer, but that wasn’t what she thought it was.

She has had a CT scan, so we are waiting for the results of that now. I am very scared, so any advice would be much appreciated.

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lljkk · 26/04/2026 08:05

Fair enough.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 26/04/2026 08:26

So sorry op. My friends mum had kidney cancer. Treatment was ok and she fortunately was curative. Hopefully the lung issue is just nothing (as it often is in my experience as a nurse). Just double check re giving up driving. Even if the cancers spread there really wouldn’t the a reason the dvla would make her stop driving. It’s only if you have cognitive impairment/weakness/eye issues which I don’t think your mum has. Best of luck to you all.

Slidesandsandpits · 26/04/2026 15:50

Heyheyitsanotherday · 26/04/2026 08:26

So sorry op. My friends mum had kidney cancer. Treatment was ok and she fortunately was curative. Hopefully the lung issue is just nothing (as it often is in my experience as a nurse). Just double check re giving up driving. Even if the cancers spread there really wouldn’t the a reason the dvla would make her stop driving. It’s only if you have cognitive impairment/weakness/eye issues which I don’t think your mum has. Best of luck to you all.

Thank you for the message. I don’t think the consultant is overly worried about the lung thing, partly because it’s so small. There is something (3cm) on her liver though, which for some reason wasn't mentioned when they called her on Tuesday so the first she head about it was during the face to face meeting on Wednesday. I know benign liver tumours are possible, but I’m not sure what the odds are of having a benign tumour in one place if you have a large cancerous tumour somewhere else.

No she doesn’t, she has no neurological symptoms at all. I assumed it was the doctor who had told her about the driving licence (in which case it must be right) but maybe I’m wrong.

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Tcateh · 28/04/2026 07:29

@Slidesandsandpits

How are you doing x

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