Cancer Support Thread 98: support for those diagnosed and going through treatment

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Hello 👋

Yes @Ventress - different type and relatively new, so fingers crossed!

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No, they said I could freeze my eggs for IVF for a later date, not wait 9 months for pregnancy. I was advised not to wait, even for the egg retrieval and embryo freezing etc as that can take 6-8 weeks.

If I can live a long life with my two little ones then I will be thankful and blessed. It’s just not what I had planned, sadly. Yes I think you’re right, I think I’m going through menopause. As well as everything else. You have to laugh or you cry don’t you!

Hi, I am also on immuno and chemo. What one did you have? Are you trying next? Fingers crossed it works for you!

What type of BC do you have, do you mind me asking?

Hi @Bangersndmash - I have melanoma, not BC. I had Pembrolizumab before - going to start nivolumab - relatlimab next week

Oh sorry my mistake. I am on pembro. Hope the immuno works for u. Did you have any other side affects with it?

No problem @Bangersndmash

@Onewildandpreciouslife good luck for Monday with your immunotherapy, yes the side effects of most of these treatments are grim.
Hopefully you wont have too many side effects to deal with.

Yep that sounds like menopause. Talk to the dr anyway though
I had a ‘crash’ menopause like that.( It’s just our way of saying overnight menopause,) it’s not like when you are eased into it gradually the natural way as you get older it just happens all of a sudden cos of chemo. I was around your age (35) for my first BC and went into sudden menopause too . It was like you describe terrible hot flushes, feeling all hot (then cold etc) . I actually had injections after chemo to induce menopause for a while but when they stopped periods came back ( I was about 40 )and went on for ten years. The second menopause was much easier !!
I think I have feral hormones hence my three hormonal breast cancers 👀

Good news over here this afternoon - score was 13 so no chemo needed!

My friend asked me to be her baby’s godmother. I cried. Should I say yes? I am life limited so I’m tempted to say to my friend to have at least two godmothers. I don’t want to leave this gorgeous little baby without a godmother ❤️

How beautiful. Made me well up. If I was you, I would absolutely say yes.

Good news @ohdoriswheresthesalad! And thank you @Nonamelass your explanation is much better than mine 😊 horrible feral hormones!

Ah, my misunderstanding @Bangersndmash. You will have an amazing life with your two little ones. I would ask your oncologist about the menopause. I think you can have a blood test to check your hormone levels and check menopause status.

Thank you @Bangersndmash. I would love to be there for this gorgeous baby. But I’m worried enough about being there for DS and he’s 18! I will contact my friend this evening I think.

@ohdoriswheresthesalad I also focus on the negative. If it wasn’t for my husband I wouldn’t remember a thing. He’s sharp as a tack. (At the moment I’m a bit concerned..seemingly overnight he is extremely hard of hearing. To the point that I (or anyone else) have to yell for him to hear). Btw, I love your name 🥰.

Oh absolutely say yes what an honour 🩷

I am a die hard Gavin and Stacey fan!
my mum was like that overnight and turned out she had glue ear!

@Ventress I’m here at the new (to me) infusion center. It’s one big room with chairs in a row (as opposed to private rooms). No TVs but the chairs are the same: heated with vibration 🥰. I agree about the organization. (or lack of). My dh just retired from this healthcare organization. He started as a lowly worker, earned an advanced degree and then became an administrator. He’s worked both sides of caregiving including being a union rep. and working to provide pt. care during strikes. He said they had plenty of time to organize patient care. I remember reading about the drs strike and the reasons who, why, where etc. I hope everything is settled? My nurse here is lovely. It’s very quiet and I guess one can say it’s peaceful although I never feel peaceful while receiving this darn stuff. The pt next chair to me is getting his last dose. He doesn’t want to ring the bell. I haven’t either. Actually I’m feeling overwhelmed 😵‍💫. Add to my emoji of frazzled eyes picture very short hair standing on end 😝. My dh just showed me something that’s posted on IG pertaining to what the strikers are asking for. The southern part of the state wants to make as much the northern part: $15.00 an hr more ($180,000/year as opposed to $140,000. )If I was still working you better believe I’d be working as much as possible!!!!! Sorry this was so long. Anxiety on my part. I hope you all had a great day.

How absolutely lovely 🥰 Do you want to say yes? Then do😉 xxxx

Holding your hand from afar xxx Are you anxious because it’s somewhere you aren’t used to? Or the strike? That certainly is a very good Nursing salary, I don’t think they get anywhere near that in rhe UK or France , how muh longer before you can go home? Big hugs xx

@Ventress Oh say yes ♥️♥️♥️♥️. What a lovely gift. I am sure your friend is asking out of a heart full of love.

@Nonamelass all of the above but a few of questions…. Who are Gavin and Stacey and what is glue ear???

Haha gavin and stacey… you have to look for it and watch it. It’s a British comedy serires about a young couple and their friends and family. It’s very very funny ( imo) you need to find it @Sbmpp . I’m not sure about glue ear I think it’s when your ear is infected and sticky xx

Haaahahhaa Gavin and Stacey is a tv show, iPlayer. Started 2008 and ended 2024 with a Xmas special!

Glue ear is when thick, sticky fluid builds up behind the eardrum, usually after colds or ear infections, and stops sound from travelling properly. It’s can cause temporary hearing loss (which happened to my mum she genuinely thought she’d gone deaf over night) and muffled sounds. She had some kind of balloon thingy for her nose but needs gromits but refuses to have them now 🤦‍♀️

Had a difficult week with a series of post op complications following surgical procedures for eye cancer which required me to go back to in 3 times with threat of futher surgeries and / or delaying my scheduled proton beam radiation treatment. Thankfully issues are resolving without need for any intervention. I think if my treatment was postponed my head would explode 🤯 anyway…..all been very emotionally discombobulating - you can tell I’m a rookie here. Hasn’t even considered that! Need to build in more mental capacity for the unexpected on top of the uncertainty.