Just needing a space to share that my MIL has just has a terminal diagnosis with a 3-4 month prognosis. We have a tiny family - there is only my DH and I (no children), my mum died last year, my DH's brother died in July. That leaves two Dads and one (absent) sister between us. I'm just so sad for all of us - for my FIL and DH especially. My MIL is a very kind woman, we get one well, and I'll be very sorry to lose her. But I'm also feeling increasingly - I don't know, is angry the right word - that after two losses we now have another one and it's COMING, so we know that Christmas and the New Year are going to be really, really sad. This summer was incredibly sad with DH's brother dying suddenly, now this is going to be really sad... I'm exhausted and I know DH is as well. I don't know - how do people get through this when it all comes at once, and how do you make the last few months 'good', not just for the person will the illness but for those closest? I think I need tips, I don't think I have the resilience left to get through this one. I have already openly wept in the supermarket when a stupid Christmas song came on. I just want to hibernate and wake up in the spring and not have to deal with all of this, but I know I need to - and while this post sounds very selfish, I do love everyone dearly so am posting this in a 'putting on my own oxygen mask first' kind of a way.