hi. I wasn’t sure whether to post here or not. It feels almost like a heavy admission to be on a cancer forum you know? But then I remembered the support I have found on this and other forums when I have been in need and also I want people to know my story as a warning and to recognise the symptoms so here goes
i am 44 with DP of 20+ years and DD1 (19) and DD2 (15). I have been on Mumsnet since my babies were born but name changed several times and changed for this post especially. My story is rather unique and vulva cancer rare for my age so if I am identifiable I don’t want it connecting to other stories I have posted!
Following the birth of DD2 who came fast without pain relief save for gas and air I have a perineal tear. I refused stitches at the time as I was exhausted, emotional and desperate not to be touched anymore. I had no numbing and was afraid of being injected. Not a wise choice at all but there we go. I can’t go back and talk to 30 year old me.
The injury didn’t heal particularly well. It was lumpy and bumpy and occasionally I would catch the skin lip and it would hurt. But never debilitating or particularly bad and it didn’t stop any vital functions so I just lived with it. Over the course of years it is just one of those things I have always thought I really should have gone back for that at the time.
in recent months however I noticed changes. Really really gradual but it became itchy and sore. I don’t really know how to explain this but a) I have never heard of vulva cancer. b) I didn’t ‘look’ at it c) it was so so gradual but eventually I thought I want to go and get it checked to see if there is anything they can do to surgically fix it. I felt so ashamed and stupid that day.
Anyway, I saw a wonderful lady that day. She sent me away with some cream first and also immediately booked a return appt for the following week for fear I wouldn’t come back. I went back a week later and she immediately referred me on the 2ww pathway for seeing a gynaecologist. Her words were ‘I don’t think it is vulva cancer as you have had it so long and you are very young but you need it sorting as it is painful so let’s push this pathway’.
Saw gynae consultant who took a biopsy and also my cervical smear that was LONG OVER DUE. He was lovely. He was a surgeon and said he fully believed we could fix/reconstruct and ‘I don’t think it is cancer but there is a little darkening at the edges so I will just take biopsy to be sure’
then my smear results come back too so high grade abnormalities (VIN3? I can’t remember). Appt to attend Hospital and as I sit on the chair where I am fully prepared to refuse colposcopy under local having had it years before she tells me the other biopsy results are in and I have vulva cancer.
so my world falls apart and here is where we are now. I have Stage 3 squamous Cell carcinoma (yes a type of skin cancer) on the vulva which is likely from HPV for which I am also positive. I had high grade abnormal cells on the cervix which could lead to cervical cancer.
i have had CT, PET and MRI scans. I have no secondary cancer seen elsewhere but do have cancer in one lymph node in the groin (inguinal area?)
this week I had a LLETZ procedure under general anaesthetic to remove the abnormal cells from the cervix. They will be tested for cancer. I don’t know if it will make much difference either way as all scans showed no cancer there right now so if positive very early stages and will be captured by the course of chemo and radiotherapy.
They cannot remove the tumour which is 3cm as it is too close to the anus and there is no healthy margin to connect to so I have to have chemo and radiotherapy first.
Up to now the hospital have been amazing but I still haven’t spoken to any of the oncologists because I came in through the surgical pathway. It is frustrating because I just want to understand how I am moving forward. What does treatment look like? What are the side effects? I believe pelvic radiation can be quite damaging on the reproductive system, bowls and vaginal canal. I want to talk to someone about that. Friends and family have been wonderful but none of them ever heard of this type of cancer either.
anyway there is so much more I could say but I went on long enough. If you read this far thank you so much. If you have experiences you can share please do. But mostly thanks for giving me a place to ramble!