Gift ideas needed

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Hi. I have a friend with a terminal diagnosis. She is well as can be in herself, still at home and still getting out the house. I am seeing her for probably the last time. I want to take something to show her how much she means to be. But I'm struggling to think of the right thing. Flowers are beautiful but seem a bit morbid in the situation.

I want something that shows her how much she means to me, and how she was an important and valued part of our friendship group. And maybe something her young boys can look back on in years to come to see how special she was, as they are both young and still at school.

The best present DH received in similar circumstances was a framed photo (small enough to be kept close ). You could find a photo of the two of you together or a memory you particularly associate with them.

I agree with your instinct that watching flowers die is not what anyone wants in these circumstances. Good luck.

I sent my friend ( who liked candles) a candle with the printed message” no words, just hugs” . It arrived the following day and she absolutely loved it. She died 2 weeks later and her husband has kept what’s left of it .

i love the photo idea- also what about a letter sharing some of the special times you had? Any special scents or perfumes from the past? Favourite shared food?

Sorry a bit morbid but what about something nice to wear to be buried / cremated in? My sister is going through funeral planning and we’d talked about this.