Pancreatic Cancer

[madeoftoast]

My beautiful mum was diagnosed 12 weeks ago with a six month prognosis. No treatment but the pain is getting worse.

I'm devastated and can’t stop crying - but not in front of her 💔

I'm sorry @madeoftoast that sounds awful. Can they give her something to help with her pain? Sending hugs x

My thoughts are with you. I have been in your position, however the prognosis was 6 weeks. Sending you love, make every second count. Tell her that you love her and talk about happy times. Those conversations will help you through the days that are to come.

It's a cruel cancer, DH was initially diagnosed with it but his turned out to be bile duct cancer. Are you getting support from your local hospice? Pancreatic Cancer UK have support lines too.

I’m so sorry @madeoftoast I agree with pp about Pancreatic Cancer UK being very helpful.

Do you have people who you can cry to? When I had similar and could not escape from the house to talk, I chatted to AI when it was late and lines closed. It was weirdly very helpful.

Thank you all.

She in hospital with a broken arm and needs rehabilitation so no urgency to come home which I’m happy with because they are giving pain relief and 24 hour care.

I’ve not been in contact with McMillian at her request. She scared and doesn’t want to talk about it even to medical team so I speak to them.

You can contact Macmillan, Marie Curie etc for you too, for support. The helplines are confidential so they won't discuss anything you say with anyone else including your mum. Our local charity were a great support to me when DH was sick, he was like your mum and didn't want their involvement but I could still use them. Anticipatory grief is hard and it is probably what you are experiencing but you don't have to do it alone

I'm so sorry. I wish there was something I could say that would make this better.

As pp says, you can - and should - still seek support for yourself. The Macmillan support line can be there for you without involving your mum and it's really important that you get support. This is a lot for you to cope with and you shouldn't have to go through it alone.

0808 808 0000

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/get-help/macmillan-support-line

They're open every day from 8am until 8pm.

Thank you for this - it’s reassuring MM is available for me too.

the hard bit is waiting and wishing it was just a bad dream x

I would definitely recommend your local hospice if they have a place available. Far better than a hospital for someone in your Mum's position.

I am so sorry, OP. I lost my dear mum to this aged 65. She did have palliative chemo. but only lived for 6 months after diagnosis.

She still has capacity so won’t entertain that

• maybe closer when she is less aware. But thanks for suggestion.

MacMillan were awful when we were in this situation. Had to send them away and ask them not to come back.

Marie Curie were wonderful, if completely overstretched.

sympathies.

Nothing to add just wanted to say my heart goes out to you x

Thank you all for you lovely comments - it means a lot ❤️

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through this. I’m in the same situation. My mum isn’t in hospital she’s being cared for at home. It’s devastating, sending love x

I'm in a similar sad situation. My mum's now in the final stages with pancreatic cancer, just come home from hospital with nothing further they can do. It's terribly sad isn't it. And difficult with not really knowing how long it's going to be. I'm sorry for everyone going through this and their loved ones.

I’m so sorry. It really is a cruel disease. We lost my my mum shortly after I posted.

I'm so sorry, OP. I found hospice care to be far superior to hospital care during the last few months of my Mums life. They really looked after her.

Sending love and thoughts at this really difficult time 🙏❤️