My childrens dad has cancer and honestly I’m not sure how I should be reacting to it but I feel overwhelmingly sad and guilty for all the things we’ve fallen out over in the past. Worried for my kids, they don’t know yet but as he’s starting chemo we may have to tell them soon. We split up 7 years ago.
Im in a relationship and there’s no empathy for him there or on my side with my family etc as they aren’t his biggest fan. I’ve messaged to ask if he needs anything and trying to be supportive without crossing a line. My children don’t see him much and this is something I feel terribly guilty about. I don’t know what the point of my message is really but how did others cope in this situation? What can I do to show support without overstepping and do we need to be honest and tell the kids?