Step by step..anyone else going through the early would like a bit of support?stages of a diagnosis and f

[Squiillionaire]

I found a lump in my breast on a Friday evening. We are renovating our house and I had been plastering all day. My arm felt a bit sore so rubbed it a bit and felt a lump. Thought I was imagining it. Felt again Saturday morning. Still there. You are in turmoil as you all know but I decided to keep it to myself until Monday. It's something that can potentially change you your life for months if not years . I wanted a weekend of normality. For me and DH.

I knew after the weekend I had to face it. Telling DH, making the initial appointment with the doctor. Monday morning I told DH. I wasn't worried about telling him in a way. We have been together for over 40 years. He reacted as I knew he would, supportive, stoic , practical. Just what I need. It is awful for him but he is just thinking of me. First step over.

Making the appointment with a doctor was not easy. We live in France and the town we live in has a massive shortage of GPs. I was so worried I wouldn't be able to find a GP. I managed to make an appointment with a doctor in a village 40 minutes away. 2nd step over.

Went to the see the doctor this evening. 3rd step over. She was absolutely lovely. The lump is very hard, not good, but moving around which is hopeful. But I know really that it isn't going to be good.

Lovely doctor will arrange a mammogram for me tomorrow in the big town close to me (town of no GPs!), hopefully I'm the next couple of days. 4th step. I'm expecting bad news. If it is bad we do have a very good hospital here.

But... I'm hopeful. I have a lot of friends who have been through the same thing and come out of the other side well and healthy.

Anyway, anyone going through this stage just now and would like a chat and support as we all go through the steps?

Sorry that title is a mess !!

No one . Okay..I've had a mammogram and ultrasound today..As I expected I have cancer. .I thought Mumsnet might provide some support . I was very wrong.

So sorry to hear that your suspicions were confirmed today OP, what a shock.
Well Done for acting so quickly.
What are the next steps?
It sounds like you have a great DH to help you through this.

Although not cancer, I am currently going through a health scare and like the way you broke everything down into steps, otherwise things can seem so overwhelming.

Sending strength for the treatment 💐

So sorry to read this @Squiillionaire I’m currently going through treatment. Please come and talk to us here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/cancer/5178874-likely-breast-cancer-after-ultrasound

and/ or here:

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/general_health/5219604-cancer-support-thread-96-its-nearly-christmas-get-the-sprouts-on?page=21&reply=142650489

Youll have lots of support from people going through the same thing. 💐

So sorry to read this @Squiillionaire I was diagnosed on ultrasound last October. This bit is such a worrying time, as they do tests etc to work out the cancer type and likely treatment plan. I hope you are coping ok.

I have my breast cancer results next week. But my consultant has told me it is very likely cancer.
The waiting is horrible. I just need to know for certain and what treatment is planned.
Im prayong that it can be treated and it hasnt spread.

I am scared. Not for me but for my lovely children.

The waiting is the worst time. Once you have a plan although it confirms the diagnosis it makes things easier to deal with. Wishing for the best for you both @Squiillionaire and @springishereeeee