Lump is sore now and is that bad? Also I have no one to come to the appointment with me

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I’m waiting to be seen at the breast clinic, after being with the GP last week. Still not heard when I’ll be seen.

The lump on my breast is sore and I don’t think it was before… I just noticed it because I had lost weight and my bras didn’t fit.

The lump is sore… not agony but it feels like it’s tingling all the time. Maybe all I’m thinking about, in my head… I’m not sure.

Also, I have to go alone to the appointment and I’m a bit worried. Someone mentioned once if they bring you to a room with a sofa that’s really a bad sign 😕. Everyone is working, my mum lives a long way away and she went through a lot when my dad was ill so I don’t want to ask her to come, especially as I know the majority of lumps are nothing.

What if it’s not ‘nothing?’

My kids are both in primary school, ex is a great dad but I don’t want to ask him to come with me,

The vast majority of lumps seen at breast clinics are benign. I think the statistic I saw was around 90%. I've been referred a few times and had no cancer found. The stats are on your side.

I was put on a two week urgent referral pathway for skin cancer and it was absolutely nothing. I can totally imagine how scared you are (I was near on hysterical) but honestly almost all are not cancer. I know you don’t want to ask your ex, but if you are on good terms then ask him. No one should go to these things alone.
sending hugs x

Don’t want to ask him because you don’t want to put him out or don’t like him? If it’s the first, ask!

Oh op, I understand. I would be absolutely fucked if I needed medical diagnosis or treatment. I’m literally on my own. I have lovely friends but they all have their own families. Ask your ex, that’s what I would do.

If you can, ask your ex to go with you.

I went on my own, and do for most appointments, there were lots of women on their own at the breast clinic.

I hope all is okay for you

I've been referred to the breast clinic in the past, you'll get plenty of support from the staff, its a scary time but try not to think too far ahead.
If you're anywhere near York and need an inperson handhold I'll come with you, that goes for any other poster too.

The room with a sofa is nonsense too. I've worked in 3 cancer units and the clinic rooms are all identical and the same as any other in the hospital.
There may well be 'relative rooms', spare rooms that people who need more support are seated in if the room their appointment over runs. But they aren't used routinely.

It's probably more sore now because you keep feeling/touching it. That's definitely what happened with me. I was really worried, my lump appeared overnight and was so obvious and felt so hard to me.
My DH came with me, it's nice to have someone with you if you're really worried, but I have previously been on my own as well and the staff were all lovely and I didn't feel alone if that makes sense.

Mine turned out to be a cyst, well, lots of cysts actually. Cysts definitely can feel sore.

I hope yours turns out to be something harmless