My FIL (72y) has recently been diagnosed with Stage 4 bowel cancer. He is awaiting a biopsy and further scan to determine which treatment options (if any) are recommended but at this stage things aren't looking great.
I'm a little taken aback by DH (39y) reaction and would appreciate advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation. He's carrying on with life like nothing has changed - doesn't want to visit his parents (2h journey), hasn't reached out to his mum or his brother since diagnosis, hasn't visited websites offering information like CRUK etc. I have been wondering whether he is scared to confront the situation and burying his feelings but I know him and his reactions very well and he genuinely doesn't seem to be concerned. I am trying to tread very carefully and gently and not overstep the mark when suggesting we think about how we might offer practical help if FIL needs to attend chemo sessions (MIL doesn't drive and they are not near the hospital) but he dismisses it as 'fussing'. I am the one checking in gently on MIL and brother in law. DH relationship with parents in normal times is fine, not extremely close but equally perfectly OK.
Obviously I'll continue to give DH space to process the news in his own time, but any other advice?