Advice re family history, breast lumps and breast clinic please

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Hi all, I'm just looking for a bit of advice and perspective, please.

I have some family history of breast cancer... mother had it in early 50s and survived (not BRCA gene), her mother had a mastectomy in her 40s/50s but apparently the tumour was benign. My paternal half-sister also had breast cancer in her early 50s and, after an initially good prognosis, died shockingly quickly.

I'm in my early 40s and have been referred to the breast clinic twice in my 30s for what turned out to be cysts / fibroadenomas.

I checked my breasts recently, probably at a bad time, not long before my period and when feeling anxious, and found my left breast to be lumpier than I'd ever felt before. One of these lumps felt particularly concerning as it's tiny but sort of hard - not flat and smooth like my typical cysts. It's towards my armpit, as though one lobule (I think that's the right word!) isn't round but more like a tiny triangle/pyramid, if that makes sense. I also have a new marble-like cyst on the underside of my breast where I've never had one before.

That said, now my period is here, all the other large cysts I was feeling - and that the GP felt - have shrunk back. Therefore, although I've been allocated a breast clinic appt next week, I'm worried that they'll think I'm wasting their time, particularly if they find it tricky to feel the triangle bit I mentioned... sometimes I myself find it tricky depending on the angle.

The GP said they would be the people to talk to about whether I need extra or earlier screening due to genetics so I guess it's worth going even for that?

I think I feel worried because my first breast clinic experience (with a female consultant) was friendly and positive and my second (male consultant) left me feeling like a time-waster... he sort of walked in, felt my breast, said 'that's not cancer' and waltzed out again, although he did send me for a biopsy.

Sorry for this long one! I just wonder if anyone has any advice about whether I should hold off for now or just go.

To put it in perspective, I have young children and the anniversary of my sister's death was recently which gave me quite a wobble.

Thanks so much for reading and any thoughts you have.

I have been 3 times and never felt like I was wasting anyone's time.

It's terrible that you've been made to feel that way but in my opinion that is actually preferable to you not going and it then being too late.

The lovely ladies there told my friend that they'd rather see her 50 times if needed than her not go once because she was worried about wasting their time.

You are not wasting their time, anyone who makes you feel that way is an arsehole but please don't let the possibility of that put you off going.

Hi there,
First off, I want to say it’s completely understandable to feel anxious given your family history and the recent changes you've noticed. It’s important to trust your instincts, especially when it comes to your health. Even if some of the lumps have shrunk with your cycle, having a lump that feels different is worth discussing with a specialist.
You’re definitely not wasting anyone’s time by seeking a second opinion or further evaluation. The breast clinic is there to provide reassurance and clarity, especially since you mentioned the family history of breast cancer. It’s a good idea to ask about earlier screening options, too having that information can be invaluable for peace of mind.
I completely understand how past experiences can influence your feelings about seeking care. Remember, not every consultation will be perfect, but it’s your health, and you deserve to have your concerns taken seriously. Going to the appointment is a proactive step for you and your family.
With everything you've been through, including the anniversary of your sister’s death, it's natural to feel a little more wobbly. Take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support. You’re doing the right thing by prioritizing your health. Good luck, and I hope you find the answers you’re looking for!

You are definitely not wasting time, I would go. As someone who was dx with bc at 34 after being misdiagnosed, I would 100% go for peace of mind.

Annual mammograms start from the age of 40 in some countries like the USA and Australia. I wish they started at that age here. Absolutely you should go and get screened, head held high! Lumps are damned scary and rates of breast cancer in the under 50s are on the rise.

Thanks so much @raspberrycordial , @maariasmith00 , @Lottemarine and @pjani for your kind, thoughtful and encouraging responses. I will make sure to go xx

I don't think you are wasting anyone's time, better to get checked. The breast cancer now website has some info on if you can refer to the family history clinic for additional checks as well. Hope your appointment goes ok

I have family history of breast cancer, both my mom and Nan have had it. As such, I’m due to receive annual mammograms from the age of 40.

Please go to the appointment. I have a family history but not as significant as yours. I was sent to the clinic early 40s and put on annual mammogram screening. At my most recent screening I was diagnosed with cancer. The screening has done its job and caught the cancer much earlier than I would have felt it. You are not wasting anyone's time. X

Thanks @spartanrunnergirl . I will go and have felt really supported and encouraged by your message and the others here. Wishing you all the very best with your treatment xx