Lung biopsy - advice please

[doubtfulguest]

Hi all. My husband has had yearly scans since he had a kidney removed 7 years ago. He has been well ever since.

However, they have found nodules in his right lung, which the specialist strongly suspects are malignant, and a biopsy is now planned.

Does anyone have advice how to manage a discussion with my 9 year old at this early stage.

My husband will have to be careful after the procedure and I need to explain this to my son.

The op is early afternoon so I am expecting I can drop my husband and then pick my son from school and then drive later that eve to pick my husband up (all being well).

I just can't decide whether to take my son in the car with me to pick husband up or have a friend look after him (which is highly unusual and may in itself worry him). We don't want to frighten our son but at the same time we don't want to not talk with him about it as he will be aware something is not right.

Any advice greatly appreciated.
I know we are on a journey with this shitty disease and I'm trying to get prepared.

Anyone?

If you really don't want your son to be aware of anything yet before you know the score, would it be possible for a friend to pick up your husband and drop him home?
I don't really have any advice but I know this is a very worrying time. Hoping you get the best possible outcome with the results x

I don't think it's possible for son not to know anything but I'll only share minimum. I just worry as kids are perceptive and he will know something is wrong.

He knows his dad has yearly scans so that in itself isn't unusual.

I hadn't actually considered anyone else collecting him as we don't feel ready to share with family and friends yet. But thinking about it, this may be a good option. Thank you. It's hard to think clearly at the moment

Be honest, but in a child appropriate way.
Kids can sense there is something wrong, also (in my experience) kids can resent you if you hide things from them and they find out later down the line.
Just explain that they have found something on the scan, but they need to do more tests and investigations until they find out what is going on.
Explain if it is something bad the doctors and nurses will do their very best to make him better.

Thank you