Not brave enough for AIBU - partner response

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I'm in the middle of the 2 week wait urgent referral pathway for suspected cancer waiting for investigations and signed off work for this as they could happen anytime this second week. It's obviously very stressful. My partner (who doesn't live with me) was there when the call came to advise of this. We've talked about me being off work. This morning (the second week of the 2ww), he asked if I had meetings at work today. He had completely forgotten it appears that I'm in the middle of this emotional rollercoaster (we text daily during the week so it's not likely he doesn't know what's going on).

I feel hugely hurt by this - by his seemingly lack of engagement in a process that might be hugely impactful - but don't know if I'm over-reacting due to stress. Whilst I appreciate his working life continues as normal, to ask a question based on an assumption I'm going in to work as if it's just another typical week just seems to communicate a lack of care and sensitivity to what is going on in my life.

Am I being oversensitive here?

I'm in two week zone. I was fine for the first two weeks, life carries on, blah blah blah.
Now been referred on to the next two weeks set of tests and I'm a mess, written off my life, I'll never wear out a new pair of sandals. What's the point, etc

DH (25 years next month) is firmly in the don't talk about it, don't mention it school of support.

I don't think either of our approaches are very useful, I hate having to worry for two.

I'm quite cheered by comments above by you anonymous randoms - thank you.

My FIT score was 200+ and the letter I saw (afterwards) from the GP to my records mentioned suspected cancer. ( I had no other symptoms but had done a private test). I had the colonoscopy within 2 weeks under NHS. I had a large polyp and a small polyp. Both removed, benign.

I agree.