Hubba with bladder cancer, operation in one day,

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Hey there
im one of those people that just never ask for help, I’ve always got on with things.
so, today was the second time I have kinda lost my ….cool and it was with my hubba.
hes been really strong and together. Focused on being positive, there have been times where he’s been overtired because he’s keeping himself super busy- that’s how he rolls.

I wanted to ask if my reaction is just part of this potentially life changing situation.
should I just be strong and be there.
is it okay to feel like you’re alone, and sad, and not talk about it. He wants to remain positive and speaking about things is often negative.

i know bottling things up isn’t great, hence I wanted to reach out and find out if anyone has any advice or been through something similar

What's a hubba?

You know she meant husband

Literally never heard it before.

Regional maybe

You know she means husband 🙄

when you say lost it what do you mean?
you’re both on a rollercoaster following such a horrible diagnoss
there’s lots of support for your husband and for you. You can start with macmillian

So your husband has bladder cancer and you’ve lost it with him because YOU feel stressed?
If he was posting we would all be telling him to leave you for being a self-centred cow.
Even if you ARE upset or whatever, find someone else to offload on or share your negative feelings or worries. He is the one who is ill and is trying to be positive for now as his way of coping. There is no playbook or instructions for this shit- so how HE deals with HIS cancer is absolutely his right.
You seriously need to give yourself a real shake. It’s
not
about
You