Family member A has confided that family member B has a malignant lump on their lung. B is not giving A all of the information, doesn't want anyone to know and is not responding quickly to letters to move things forward. I can't speak directly to B to encourage them to crack on with treatment as I am not supposed to know and will call a huge fall out if I reveal I know. I love both A and B but do not see B enough and so it will look strange if I try to spend time with them now, even at Christmas though I will see them around Xmas but they won't know I know! I saw them recently for an event they wanted to go to (this is not usual and this makes me think of a bucket list) and though they were ill, they didn't hint at what was going on.
All I know is that there has been an X Ray and a CT scan and B is under the impression it will be cut out but dont know if that has come from.a Doctor or their own research.
I've tried googling to gleam the prognosis but don't have enough information and I am worried their delays are going to ultimately lead to their death. B is early 50s and though doesn't live a healthy lifestyle is young enough to give a good fight, if they find their fight!
I'm frustrated because I can't do anything and sad to be going into Christmas not knowing the chance of them being here next year. Add to that the worry for A who is devastated and also helpless and has had their Christmas ruined. I'm guilty as I feel annoyed at B too, to not be doing what they need to do and putting A in a horrible position.
No resolution can come from Mumsnet but perhaps anecdotally this happens a lot before people accept what they need to do??