Am I to forward

[Sloth1977]

I’m a 45 year old single man, I love outdoor pursuits and would ask your opinion on whether I’d be to forward in asking someone newly met camping in a very “snug” tent for a weekend of adventure?

Arquebuse, my thought process is sound, as I said I like weekend breaks, we spoke about a couple days away and I said I’d arrange something…. I’ve learned to enjoy more hands on experiences,you appreciate things more both in surroundings and comparison.
This is me, “my thought process” was if she was genuinely interested in knowing “me” then this was a good start😘

If you want to have sex with her at least spring for a hotel.

It really isn’t. It’s perfectly possible to organise an outdoorsy weekend without sharing a ‘snug’ tent with someone you’ve gone on a single date with. No woman in her right mind would do this, regardless of how interested in the outdoors she is. She can have no idea whether or not you’re some kind of predator. The fact that, at 45, you don’t appear to realise this is concerning.

we spoke about a couple days away and I said I’d arrange something….

Did she have a heads up that it might be in a snug tent? Or any kind of tent?

I love camping but not in a tiny tent you can’t stand up in. I’d bring my canvas Dutch storm tent.

One date? And you expect a woman to be willing to share a tent with you, snug or not? I love camping, have multiple tents for different scenarios and more equipment than is healthy but under no circumstances would I risk going camping with a guy after one date. And if a guy asked I think there'd be no further dates.

Such a shame but your messages speak volumes. The whole idea is based around YOU and what YOU like rather than what you think the other person might like. That’s not how successful relationships work I’m afraid!
Also sounds like you would like the other person to ‘prove’ themselves by being up for camping…
Hate to break it to you but if you want this relationship to work, you’re going to have to rethink your priorities. All the best

Sounds lovely but at least take two tents. Give her the option to enjoy her ‘surroundings’ while having a get out option.

Sounds fucking horrendous.

It’s not so much the camping, you would like to meet someone who would enjoy camping with you, fair enough. But being asked to share a snug tent after one date would massively put me off , I wouldn’t be comfortable if was a hotel room either. Wait until it’s been a few more dates and you’ve slept together

This sounds really red flag-y, but you're presenting it as some kind of personality test.

In a nutshell, exactly

Unless you are a princess in a fairy tale then I think it’s a it much to be “testing” her in this way. Plenty of non-shallow men and women don’t like camping although I do. If she is romantically interested it’s early to feel comfortable and confident with that degree of claustrophobic intimacy. Most of us at least start off wearing our best knickers and putting our best foot forward.

I do wonder whether you’ve been reading nonsense online. Just take her as you find her, she’s a 3 dimensional, complex person; don’t analyse everynuance according to schema you’ve got in your head based on misogynistic internet bollocks. Neither of you are a prize to be won nor a challenge to be subjugated. If it goes nowhere it doesn’t have to mean there is something wrong with either of you.