Am I in the wrong

[Vicdad1992]

My Daughter(10) wets the bed almost nightly like clockwork. She has an end of year school camp coming up before Christmas and wants to go. I want her to go but planned to pick her up as they are getting ready for bed under the pretense of a family emergency and drive her back in the morning and repeat the next night(two night camp).

Her mum(recent divorcee) is adamant she will be fine with nappies and is telling me to back off from the situation. I know they have plans in place with the staff. The thing is I was a bedwetter as a kid and was absolutely humiliated at school camps. The worst of it was being made to walk from the rooms to the showers past all the girls and boys in a soggy nappy. I literally got teased all the way to the end of high school and it even got mentioned in my best man's speech at my wedding. So it's not like my ex doesn't know this things stick with you for life. I just feel like its the best option to keep her safe and she still gets the experience. She is not missing much by listening to other kids sleep. In my opinion she has way less to lose if I pick her up. Has anyone else got any other ideas?

What are you doing overall about this issue for her? At 10 it should be something you’re trying to help her overcome, not hide.

I think your priorities on this are wrong.

I get your concern but have you looked into incontinence underwear? They're nowhere near as noticeable an pull up type pants and her friends will definitely not notice! Just send her with a dry bag to put them in once they're soiled and tell her to give herself a baby wipe wash?
They're expensive, a few brands do then but definitely worth the investment for an occasion like this.

I seem to recall that the gp can issue a medicine (spray?) Which can help no end with short term bed wetting. I'm VERY hazy on the details but may be worth looking into?

Guys come on….

What does your DD want? At this age I'd be talking to her. I wouldn't fake emergencies 2 nights in a row. She might actually feel just as embarrassed to be picked up each night. But if that's what she wants I'd simply be telling the school matter-of-factly that I'll be picking her up e

What does your DD want? At her age I'd be including her in the decision and following her lead. If she wants to not sleep at camp I wouldn't be faking emergencies I'd matter-of-factly be telling the school that's what she needs so I'll be picking her up at x time each night. She may be more embarrassed by getting picked up then by wearing discrete incontinence pants.

Thought the first post didn't post.

Hi everybody thanks for the replies. @Changingplace I was a wetter until 12 and the doctors have just told us to wait it out and she will out grow it eventually. My understanding is apart from the spray there is really nothing you can do to stop it, just manage it?

@Ingleduh I've never heard of these. Do they have them in kid sizes?

We have tried the spray once and it was a little sporadic but did help. So if she stays we will get her to use it.

@LunaAndHerMoonDragons I'm taking my exes lead which is trying to get her to bring it up and make a decision so she doesn't feel embarrassed/gets what she wants. We filled out the form the other day and it asked the question and I ticked yes and than at the end asked her if she wanted to be picked up before bedtime and she just shrugged.

We have a few more weeks up our sleeve so I'll look into the incontience underwear and if they do kid sizes.