Partner is the bringer of snacks

[Mixedit]

Thought many of you may understand where I'm coming from so hoping this is the right place for this thread.

I have struggled with my weight for years and am finding calorie counting a healthy way of trying to get better control of it. My DP and I have been together a long time and he is very aware of the struggles I've had with it.

He was super supportive at the beginning of my calorie counting but this has tailed off. He is coming home from work with huge bags of sweets and crisps. At the moment I'm managing to resist or weigh myself out a sensible portion but quite often he'll offer me more. It got late last night so he drove us to McDonald's. I still managed to stay within calories but watching him eat whatever he wanted with sides was so difficult.

Now I know - I don't have to say yes or share with him but I'm having to dig deep to find the willpower to resist. Has anyone else found this and managed to find a good way of coping?

Ask him why he is trying to sabotage your efforts.

Have you lots a lot of weight, is he getting insecure about it? Is he overweight?

I honestly think he just forgets. I can be a bit up and down with it but over the last month I've really committed. Haven't lost a lot yet and I'm actually wondering if he's just forgetting as my efforts aren't really visible at the moment.

He can eat whatever he likes and barely put on any weight. Also over 6ft so could get away with putting on more!

Snacking has always been a big part of our relationship and I'm struggling to move away from that when it seems so embedded.

I would be the same, it's one thing having the willpower not to buy or get snacks out of the cupboard but when it's handed right to you that's challenging!

If this was me I would be open with him about how important it is to me to keep on track and how I would really like his support.

I think you're right. It's a message I may need to reconvey a few times. I'm hoping he got the message last night as he sat with his 2 bowls of snacks while I enjoyed one delicious piece of fudge within calories ☺️

@Mixedit well done! It takes a lot of willpower and sometimes it feels rubbish when you just want to give in and eat all the snacks! But I honestly think it feels great when you're enjoying that treat that's within your calories 😊 I also really savour them rather than just mindlessly eating.

Hopefully your partner will be more supportive of you now too 😊