I am drinking 600 calories a day. How to just quit?

[hellenbackagen]

Ok....
If I buy a cake I eat a small piece and save the rest
If I buy a bar of chocolate I eat a few squares and I save the rest
If I eat a big meal I eat sensibly for the rest of the day

I am surprised I am not fecking huge because the one rule this does not apply to is wine.
If I have a bottle of wine - its gone. The whole damn bottle. And this is now nearly a daily occurrence.
This is 700 cals a day.
I want to stop but it feels like my only treat and it's the one thing I can't ration.

I just need to ban the booze altogether don't I?

It feels harder than stopping smoking or giving up chocolate or carbs!

How do I get to grips with this? I know that without the extra 700cals a day I'd be healthy, slim, fit and probably ultimately a lot happier and I know my partner would be ecstatic if I stopped drinking. (He hates it and worries about my bottle a day habit)

I CAN do without when working nights so I'm not alcoholic or alcohol dependant. It's in my head that I need a drink. But I am struggling to go tee total.

Anyone any advice?

Please read give up the drink easily by Jason vale
Easy to read but makes you think about the whys
I gave up alcohol last year for a year mainly to prove to myself I could do it , which I did

Even now if I have wine it is only one glass , and I don’t want / need more

Besides the calories you are damaging yourself drinking at that level ... please try to give it up

Quite apart from calories that is a huge number of alcohol units a week - 70ish. Give it up for Lent and re-evaluate your relationship with booze. If you find you can't give up then seek some support.

You have to find a different way to chill out ... your wine is your release but if you drink regularly it doesn’t touch the sides... find something else that chills you out stick with that and leave wine alone for a min of a month and see how you feel.

Going 11 months with out due to pregnancy sorted me ... the moment I realised I was pregnant I didn’t touch a drop, this happened around my hen do ( cocktail making ) and wedding too ... had lots of fun and realised I like wine and Gin and all things alcohol but I don’t need it to relax and have fun x x

It's in my head that I need a drink.

That's how addiction works

You don’t have to drink everyday to be alcohol dependent.
I stopped drinking June 17 after drinking way too much for way too long. But not every single day. Moderation is so much harder than abstinence...
Have a look at some quit lit and get inspired.

Anyone any quit lit that works?

I never used to even think about drinking.

Really telling me to give up....you are preaching to the converted! I know! I want to give up.! I just can't find the will power .

I was unable to stop at one drink and a treat-y bottle of wine opened at 8pm would be empty by midnight. Then the next night if I felt like ‘just the one’, I’d have to buy another bottle. I never bulk-bought, I’d just pop out for a bottle (nightly).

In January, I just woke up one day and decided to stop.

I prefer to moderate my drinking when required. I do like a glass of wine or a a g&t to chill after a day at work but if required I can do without. I rarely get to a point I can't function - maybe once a year.

I find the more I think about it, the more I drink which is quite weird.

I can always function. I can get up at 5am and go to work.

I need to find a way to stop drinking and I hate the cals I'm consuming in doing so. I eat healthily and I try to exercise and it's all wasted on wine!

The calories are the last thing you should be worrying about. Think about what it is doing to your liver and other organs. A bottle of wine a day is 10 units of alcohol per day your body is having to process, with no let up.

And you clearly are alcohol dependant if you can't 'stop' yourself. Enforced non drinking due to having to work doesn't prove you aren't alcohol dependant. It just means that on days when your schedule prevents you from having a drink, you go without, only to resume your habit next day when you can.

You've got a problem and it's not the extra calories you are consuming.

Yeah thank you for that .

I'm asking how I stop. Not asking for a kicking .

I know I'm damaging my health hence asking for advice on literature that works.

Are you me? I won't eat a burger but I'll drink a bottle of wine...moderation doesn't work for me, thinking of just going cold turkey

And by making this about calories is how I will stop.

I am worried about my weight more than my liver. Sad but true.

Right baby. Shall we bite this bullet together?

I found the dry January app really motivating. It tells you what you've saved in money and calories. I'm still using it now to keep me on the straight and narrow...

I tried dry jan. ppfffttt!

I got pg 3 years ago and stopped. Then found my baby had a disability and terminated at 14 weeks. If I were to get go again I'd stop tomorrow but I've recently turned 47 so that's doubtful.

Im struggling to stop. It's annoying me as I stopped smoking. I eat well. I try to exercise (I'm crap) but try.

hellen sorry you asked for advice/shared a problem and got very unhelpful replies.

I also know how you feel. I gave up alcohol for a year when I had DD and a year last year but somehow I am also drinking too much regularly.

When I was 30 (47 now),living in London, EVERYONE drank this amount. People now seem to have given up the booze. Like smoking. I also find giving up smoking/eating cake or chocolate no problem at all.

Even if I have a posh bottle of fizzy water, I have to finish it

'Belle' (I joined via facebook somehow) is very helpful.

The first two days are worst, well, hellish, then I find it gets easy! I enjoy it then.

Oh we're of the same generation

So sorry about your pregnancy

I need to plan then and go properly tee total.

I'm sure I can I just can't moderate.

Quit or nothing it seems!

I'm asking how I stop. Not asking for a kicking

I never intended to give you a 'kicking'. Just a reality check, as your OP rather glosses over the true extent of drinking 70 units of alcohol week in, week out.

Take it from someone who knows.

Buy the little bottles, one at a time.

I'll do it with you

No I'm fully aware that I'm consuming way too many units. I really am. I just find it more helpful to my mind to think about the calories than then units for some reason. I'm shallow! My weight means more than my liver sadly!

thesoberschool.com/ Helped me amongst various other books Rational Recovery and I hear the Naked Mind is good.