How do you cope with loved ones sabotaging slimming efforts?

[WalkingThePlank]

I feel that DH is sabotaging my efforts. I'm calorie counting using MFP. This works well for me as I can balance my exercise/intake and perhaps reward myself in the evening and still be within the net calorie limit - or I would if DH didn't scupper me. Here are some examples

Twice this week he's brought home a Pret a Manger 'Love' Bar. He genuinely only buys these when I am calorie counting. I imagine they are well over 300 calories and as I would never have 300 calories spare of an evening I soar well past my limit despite having been really active or even hungry during the day.

I try to walk when possible to earn some treats but this morning he was waiting in the car with the children when I came out of church 'in case it rains'. That walk home would have been c.100 calories, he knew I had an umbrella and it wasn't raining.

I have told him I am trying to lose weight. I have told him that high calorie gifts are not helpful and I explained (before I left for church) that I was walking to expend some calories so that I could 'afford' our Sunday roast. I felt that to not get in the car today would have been churlish and confusing for the children.

So how do I get the message across without being ungrateful?

Actions speak louder than words.

Don't eat the food he brings, don't get in the car when he turns up.

You simply stick to your guns.

Why would the children have been 'confused' if you'd said, "Mummy's going to walk, because I want some exercise and fresh air"?

Equally, if the wants to buy a love bar, let him get on with it. You don't have to eat it.

I'm sure there are other things that you are resisting on a daily basis.

It sounds like a weird stuation. Why is he so determined to sabotage?

Don't tell him you're on a diet. Make out you don't feel like eating as you may be coming down with something. Go for a walk and say you need fresh air.

Is he a bit insecure? Worried that you will not want to be around when you are at goal weight? Second PP's who have said don't eat his stuff. I realise easier said than done....

I don't think he is insecure. I think he just likes doing nice things.

He's just offered me Jaffa cake as I write this!

He's not doing nice things though, is he? Nice things would be walking home with you and not tempting you with excessive calories.

I agree with what Izzy said.