12year olds bullying

[nanky]

My 12 year old DD was really happy at high school till 2 weeks ago her 2 best friends that she moved up with have decided to exclude her along with one other new girl.Sh e still has other friends but is really hurt by this gang of 3's behaviour particularly the 2 who were at primary with her. I know both parents well particularly one of them they have both had numerous sleepovers at our house. I can accept that relatioanships change and my dd will have to nove on but last night one of the old friends sent a text calling my dd a c&*$t.

Obviously my DD wants me to do nothing even claims she still likes the girls. I could ld speak to the Mums but they might tell their DD

I'd ignore that particular text but I would let the other parents know that they have a falling out...no blame apportioning and ask them to be discreet so no mountains are made out of molehills, but ask to be kept informed if they here of any problems or if you daughter does anything mean...you are now set up as they will probably do the same for you...you can then, freely report any further dreadful behaviour on their part to their parents fully knowing they have asked you to...engineer it!
That doesn't help your daughter in the meantime though...
Can you invite a few other friends over? shopping trip, cinema or a girl's dvd night?
May be worth a chat about always having a wide circle of friends...This goes for us adults too..and help her to see that girls at this age often do this...she is being kind to try to stay friendly, and she shouldn't join in the bitchiness but know she can confide in you to share her problems. Forgive and forget too I think are important and she has has a great quality if she can do that..good for her. xx

Ouch. Why are they so horrid to each other these girls of a certain age? I think they are experimenting with relationships and learning right from wrong. Trying on the emotions for size if you like...but what a painful process.
I agree with distraction techniques, just as we did when they were learning to walk and falling on their bottoms. Race in with something fun to pick them up off the floor.
You are not alone x