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mummag · 12/11/2009 11:13

my ds1 is 7 and in year 3, for as long as he has been at school there has been a problem with one of his class. This boy seems to have no idea what is appropriate behaviour, doesnt understand when his behaviour is wrong. I had sympathy to start with but things have been escalating recently. In the last couple of weeks he has pulled my son by his hair to the floor, kneed him in the back and floored him. He has hit a teaching assistant, shouts out rude words walks around the class shouting faggot and moron and is basically uncontrollable. I have obv spoken to the school cos my son is in tears about it all, the year 3 teacher is keeping a record and wants us to write letters detailing all the issues. But do you know what really really worries me, the KS1 leader and head have told her that he has never been like this before!!! BUT HE HAS he was kissing a liitle boys bum in the toilets in year one and was behaving really badly. This current teacher wants to get him statemented, but i dont understand why they are saying there wasnt a problem. I was in with the head continually in year 2 but trusted the school were dealing with it. Believe it or not she told ds1 he needs to feel sorry for bully cos his mum doesnt love him as much as i love ds1. I couldnt believe my ears. My partner is a teacher and he cannot believe that he hasnt been excluded for assaulting the teaching assistant and attacking other pupils. What do you think could possibly be the reasons for the lack of action and denial that he was a problem before??

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posieparker · 12/11/2009 11:15

Sounds like the other boy needs a LSA, your poor son.

mummag · 12/11/2009 11:54

I am sooooo cross with the school, i just would like some evidence that they are responding to this lads obvious problems. I am sympathetic that this boys homelife is clearly not great, but my child deserves better. I also feel sorry for the teacher who says she cant teach because of him and the other children that are not able to hear or learn anything. Ds1 is a very bright lad and does well with little effort, i know when i was at school i needed to really pay attention or i was lost, this must be the case for some of the kids in that class. I think however that there are a lot of very clever children in this class so it there is little evidence of the disruption he has been for all these years. I am so fed up with this situation and i feel terrible that i have let it go on and had such blind faith in this bloody school and that they were dealing with it... Do you think and letter to LEA, governers and head would be a good starting point to get somewhere with this...

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posieparker · 12/11/2009 14:36

Yes, yes and yes.

BUMP BUMP

mummag · 12/11/2009 16:57

Thanks posie, i am bit ranty about this at the moment!!!

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mummag · 19/11/2009 16:05

well we wrote to the school, with a copy to the governers. Got the most rude letter back, saying that we should look at whether the school is the right place for my son to be going to. Nothing to say sorry for him having had this problem, oh no, its us being overprotective. I am sooooo annoyed.

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