Feeling really fed up - shouldnt parents take some responsibility fro their childs behaviour????...

[becaroo]

...my 6 year old has been bullied by the same boy since nursery. He often comes home black and blue but refuses to tell us what has happened (other parents tell me!) Despite me telling him repeatedly he never tells a teacher either. I have never confronted the boys mother becasue her attitude has always been "boys will be boys" and genuinely thinks that the teachers have "got a downer" on him this despite every techer he has had having probelms with his behaviour!

When they moved up to year 2 I specifically requested him not to be in this boys class I was so worried about it.

Anyway, this morning he told me that on thursday playtime this boy reapeatedly punched him in the stomach. He did tell a teacher (!) who told the boy off and made him say sorry but I am really fed up with this....My son is very quiet boy and although not perfect would not punch anyone.

Anyway, I had a word with this boys mum this morning and surprise surprise, she basically said "well they do like to play rough" and made it sound like I was being silly. Have just rung the school and explained the situation and am waiting for the head to call me back.

Am really furious with this woman - she said that it "wasnt done maliciously"!!!! FGS!! Wish I had not said anything and just spoke to the head. I knew what her attitude would be and yet I still said something...feel like an idiot.

What should I have done/do now????

WTSF - I have decided to write to the Board of Governors about the lack of official records of verbal complaints of bullyng. My ds1 is off sick at the moment but I will take it in tomorrow.

Good, well done. Keep up the pressure on them to sort this out, don't let them fob you off with excuses. Keep posting!

Hello.

Took my letter in today and he head phoned me back later (she was taking assembly).

She has replied to my letter but obviously with the postal strike it may take a while to get here!

Apparently she has already produced a pro forma sheet for recording verbal and phone conversations about bullying and after half term there will be a staff meeting when the new rules for recording them will be discussed.

Am pleased, but its too late for my ds1. Hopefully no other parents of children will go through what we have.

At least your efforts have meant your school have atarted a system for recording complaints. Frankly i am amazed and apalled that there was nothing in place already. Well done for taking action.

But what about your DS? Has the bullying stopped? Is the school going to talk to the other boy/and or his parents?

Hi WTSF.

They have spoken to his parents but its pointless - they feel that the school has a "downer" on the boy (!?) They have been called in repeatedly by every teacher he has ever had, but they just dont see/wont see the problem.

Got the reply letter today. All in all I am pleased with the new system and the boys will be monitored closely at playtimes and lunchtimes - which should have been happening before, of course!

Dont really care if I offend anyone now - he has only got 3 more terms then off to juniors so they better get used to me being in their face!!!!

Well done becaroo. Hopefully if this boy knows he is being watched he will stop.

And if people take offence at you standing up for your DS because he is being bullied, then clearly it is their problem. You do whatever is right for your DS, don't worry about what other people might think.

Becaroo - well done you and I hope situation improves at school when he's back.

I've not direct experience as ds at preschool - but there is one boy who has been horrible to him and I wonder whether you can call a 3 year old a bully or one in the making.

(worse still the boy is now being nice to ds and ds wants to be his friend but I've also noticed that ds is being more unpleasant! Agh!'

But you've done well and hopefully the situation will turn around and your son can actually enjoy himself. My view is that we have legal obligation to educate our children and while they are in school the school needs to be responsible for their welfare. End of.