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Bullying

Find advice from others who have experienced school or workplace bullying on our Bulllying forum.

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Lukilu · 23/01/2009 12:48

I'm worried about my DS. He has just started full time at reception. He came home yesterday saying that he and a couple of boys had been pulled out of playtime for 5 minutes for hitting. He said they had been pushing him and annoying him (could be power rangers getting out of hand). Anyway, he reacted to it and hit them and they all got told off. I was furious with him. He started crying and said that people don't like him. I pointed out the ones that I know do like him and explained that not everyone is going to like him, and he's not going to like everyone and that's just life. I'm just not sure if he's doing the bullying or he's being bullied - he's quite feisty and if he feels some of the boys aren't being very nice to him it could turn him into a bully.

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scattyspice · 23/01/2009 13:03

All the boys in DS year (yr1) have been in trouble for fighting etc at some point this yr and last. Its quite common and usually (as you say) Power Rangers gone too far, rather than actual bullying. It sounds like the school is nipping it in the bud and helping them learn when to stop. Don't worry about him and don't be furious with him, he is just being a boy!

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Lukilu · 23/01/2009 13:21

Thanks, ok I won't be furious with him but I've just got visions of the other boy's mothers giving me dirty looks in the playground! The thing that I find upsetting is that he thinks other kids at school don't like him - he's only 4 and half - I don't want him thinking things like that.

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morethanjustadad · 23/01/2009 13:35

Lukilu
you'll probably find that the other mothers will be worrying in just the same way that you are.

I'm told all boys go through a stage like this. My own DS has both been "Bullied" and "Bullied" - we saw it on both occasions as teasing or simply asserting themselves. Like it or not, boys tend to sort out hierarchies even at this age - as he's a little bit younger it is possible that others are "picking" on him. He's probably just having none of it.

Sounds as tho' the school is sorting ot out.

scattyspice · 23/01/2009 17:48

Poor DS, mine was the same. Could you invite 1 or 2 boys for tea, that seems to go down well in the playground.

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