Advice needed. DS 5.5 being left to play on his own at playtime/lunch time.

[earlynite]

My DS is very kind, gentle boy. Not really the rough and tumble kind. He has mentioned a few times now that he has been left alone at playtime and lunch time. He said today that he was just singing nursery rhymes by himself. He isn't upset or sad but I am worried that he is a loner. I am thinking of speaking to the school tomorrow. What does everyone think. I could cry for him.

Do they have a buddy bench? Or buddy system?

If you have a quiet word at school the playground people may be able to keep an eye on him, encourage games and get him involved.

I remember being like your ds and just being left to it, most schools are good with tackling this now.

is he in reception?

my boy has just started reception and sometimes says similar things...so and so doesnt want to play with me ,when i ask he says no etc.

i think it is def worth mentioning it to his teacher...for a couple of reasons.

a) she might be able to add some info eg it that she sees him playing with children sometimes.

b) if it is an issue and your ds is isolated then the teacher can try and faciliate some friendships.

beansontoast He is in Y1 and so is use to the children in his class. I am defo going to speak to his teacher tomorrow. Thanks sammyk I will ask about buddy bench/buddy system.

There are quite a few thread were children have said this and when mentioned to teacher, or parent spies on child or whatever it turns out to be complete nonsense or at least only partially true.