Dd 7 is having a terrible time at primary. Since mid year 1 someone who was friend gradually became more hostile and at the end of year 2 this became physical. School agreee to separate classes and have spoken directly with the girl to syay away a tother times but she doesn't and they have done nothing further after three meetings with head, follow ups seem to get forgotten.
dd now has terrible anxiety and is in danger of ebsa. We are finally starting some outside counselling this week, but as gp said when we spoke to him, you can counsel all you like but if the underlying issue is not addressed it won't get sorted. School have completed a marf (?) to get some family support. I assume this includes social services, as the head was wondering if we would be ok with this. I have absolutely no problem what anyone does as long as we get help. But they just seem to be suggesting we're the problem. Dd actually couldn't get to school the other day and head came to meet us in the car park, tried to take dd bag and coat and when dd was crying just said come on mummy has places she needs to be and you can come and have orange squash with me. Dd has said school to chaotic and noisy, heads answer was ear defenders!
We are lucky enough to have two other primary on our large village but they are ran by the same academy trust as is the local secondary. I know we should move her but what message does it send? She is already so anxious I'm so worried to make it worse, and if she meets up with the bully again in yr7 have we just delayed the inevitable.
Please be kind we already feel terrible enough not acting stronger sooner but it was a previous friendship that very gradually changed so it went under the radar for quite some time