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Am i being bullied at work?

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JR23 · 02/02/2026 18:43

I have 2 colleagues I work directly with at work, I’m most “senior” in terms of tenure. They joined the team around 6 months ago and Ive been here 3 years in March

They're constantly finding ways to get involved with my customers, make arrangements and agreements with them and telling me absolutely nothing about it so when I call the customer and tell them their bill or that the cars ready to collect I look like a dick because something else has been agreed

Im regularly left out of conversations & have heard them gossip about me multiple times- once even going as far as to blatantly lie to the manager about a situation to get me in trouble

Today I had a customer whose bill should have been £739 but I managed to get it down to £608, after advising him this morning I would see what I could do. When he came to collect he asked my colleague if it had been discounted and rather than just turning to the left and ask me my colleague got up and went through and asked for another 10% off, meaning we have now lost money to have carried out the work. Low and behold my manager pulled me and ripped me a new a**ehole because my names at the top of the job and I “should know better than that”

Ive previously told my manager I think I’m being bullied and his response was “if you don’t like it then go and do something about it” he also told me I was hysterical and overreacting

my biggest concern is we work for individual bonuses and the structure is about to change to be individual customer service surveys & we have to get a certain amount a month to achieve bonus. if I keep getting shafted am I going to be performance managed out through no fault of my own?

any advice on what to do?

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Mygosh · 02/02/2026 23:03

Yes, it's bullying, your colleague obviously believes that they are superior to you. I'm sorry you are having a hard time, but you need to stick up for yourself.

Like the example you give about giving a discount, you should've said loudly, I've already dealt with that.

Is there anyone you can talk to regarding your concerns? You need to write everything in a diary and approach hr or your boss. If they call you hysterical you could comment that you find it sexist (assuming you are female).

crazeekat · 02/02/2026 23:38

Start writing things down. Dates times who. U need evidence. But u need to start sticking up for urself. Keep it professional but let them know u are onto them.

ThejustbrothersCarlenaNSoul · 03/02/2026 00:22

I would tell them straight Infront of the manager'stay out of any sales that pertain to me.
I would further write out any bills showing any discounts and sign date and time.

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