Parents bullying

[Babybrain26]

Unfortunately im in the situation were the parents of the boys in our sons class have taken the side of anothet parent spreading lies about us. My son and his friend are being isolated by the group as am I. My son is mostly unaware of this happening as he still has his best friend but as i say most have stopped talking/playing with him. The other parents throw snide remarks my way, all claimed by this other parent. My son does very well academically which may also be a factor. I'm drained with the other parents scapegoating me. This all atarted when after numerous occassions the teacher decided to phone the mum (the one spreading the lies) about her son hitting/pushing/shouting at mine. The lies haven't stopped since. The other parents realised after a point they werw lies, but now whatever has been said, my son and I are the target again with other parents suggesting we should just have a fight with this woman (the kids all suggested the same to my child at the start of the year, showing him what to do-playing rough with him which upset him. It just happened once though so we ignored it. What should i do here? I have 2 kids in the school both sort of happy (as they are unaware of how the parents are) but it is gradually effecting things in the classroom, the teacher seems to turn a blind eye (i informed her what had happened with the previous teacher/the previous year before the start of term) she seperated the boys in the classroom for a while, sat my son with their friend, but i also got the blame for that too.

Sorry I might not be reading it right as it's early morning

Have you spoken to the parent who is spreading the lies directly?

Have you spoken to the teacher and explained your son is feeling isolated?

Are there other kids in the class he can make friends with and just avoid the ones that are being nasty?

@YourMintTraybake i haven't spoke to the mum since she keeps telling lies to everyone about us so i don't think i could trist her/have an honest worthwhile conversation. When the teacher called her, she brought it up at a kids party to me, apologised but then bkamed my child for being too sensitive and thwn told her friend mum her version of things, blamed our child for hitting hers etc and it juat keeps escalating. The other parents are thriving on the drama. Theres only 2 other kids that havent isolated my child. Bottom line the teacher doesn't care and i don't feel i can trust any of the other parents.

This has now escalated to other kids stealing my son's football cards, pushing him in the mud, throwing his coat in the mud and kicking him (same kid as last year for the kicking, different kids for the other things). His best friend told the teacher on all occasions, the kids were put in time out. I mentioned to the teacher about the cards being stolen (we know who did it) just to make her aware, the best friends parents found out and for some reason thought we were 'telling' on their son (my son gave him one card- it wasnt related to that, another kid took 4 unopened packets on the first day he brought his new tin in - the other boys werent speaking to him prior to this as he wasnt participating). Now the best friends parents have blocked me, and are trying to socialise more with the kid that kicked out son. His best friend also told him this week he no longer wants to be his friend. Hes extremely hurt and hasnt done anything other than be a victim of bullying. The teacher does nothing. All the parents have turned against us as the teacher banned the cards. What do I do here? My son no longer likes school and each day I worry what happens to him. Its awful, hes only year 2.

I know it sound extreme but move schools that class sounds horrible, and the teachers clearly don't care about bullying

Move schools. Whatever is going on, relationships are breaking down at a fast pace. It’s not worth 4 more years of this.

I agree, move schools. There’s no way I’d keep my child in this environment and you’ll all be happier at a different school. I’ve moved mine and they were fine, they adjust.

I'd be thinking about moving too.

However trading cards of any type often get banned in schools due to unfair swaps etc. We always had a rule of taking nothing in and never giving or accepting things at school.

Move him they sound awful.

You need to move him to a different school. It sounds awful.

Im won't lie im worried about moving slightly just because we live opposite the school a lot of the class are our neighbours and my younger son is sorta settled there (its not perfect but hes ok). Its absolute hell at the minute for us though. I don' t know if speaking to the head would change anything and if i did how the current teacher would treat my kid until June. There's only one school with spaces for both near us, ive heard their pastoral care isnt great.

The best friends parents had a word with thr teacher after school yesterday and My son is home today with a scrape on his face (wont say why) and his best friend is now refusing to play with him and is playing with the kid we had round for a playdate instead . We've no one, hes so upset hes lost his best friend. Is there anything I can do here? I did get speaking to the bf's dad (just generally asking them how they were etc, i didnt mention their kid jo longer playing with our son) but it was all quite false it seems and their kid refused to play with our son the next day again. Is this a lesson in resilience and trying to make new friends (somehow) or is a move the best option?

It sounds like it’s past the point of no return. For whatever reason the entire class and their parents dislike you and your son, surely your only option at this point is to move?

Why was he taking all those football cards into school in the first place? Surely that’s just a disaster waiting to happen!

Wellall the other boys had been bringing in their cards for around 2 months prior. He brought in the tin of 40 but most of the packs were unopened. The other kid took those and opened them and kept them. Most of the other boys (including thr kid who took the cards and the best friend are all meeting up this weekend. Only the dads were invited but they all know my husband works weekends).

The best friend pushed him into the mud yesterday and is consistently mean to him now. My son told the teacher and he was put in time out(which doesnt do much). Hes been pushed several times now. Clothes covered in mud coming home. Teacher never says anything to me.