8 year old being excluded and having pens stolen

[Rainbow15555]

Morning everyone, I’m looking for some advice for our 8 year old daughter who is in year 4 at school. Since year 1 there have been incidents of unkindness from one specific girl who has tried hard to exclude our daughter from playing with friends. In year 3 she started to steal some pens from my daughter’s pencil case. On Friday she took one of her favourite pens and the teacher listened eventually and the girl gave it back after saying it jumped into her desk. I know these things sound trivial but to our daughter it is really making her sad. There are 3 girls who she loves playing with and every break time the other girl tell her she can’t play with them. I’ve had meetings wit the school but nothing seems to change.

Any ideas? Not sure what to do but I just feel so sorry for our daughter. We have just brought her a lockable pencil case to use tomorrow! Thank you

The meetings you mention with the school…. What’s been agreed as next step at the end of the meetings?

What about inviting the girls (all of them including the bully) around for a play date or an activity together?

Have you had meetings with just the class teacher or the head?

What is the school’s policy on bullying? I’d be escalating this and if you get nothing from the head then take it to the governors, they should be taking a firm stance on bullying.

I would steer your dd to the other kids she likes in that class. Maybe organise a couple of play dates with kids she’s not as close with and if she feels like she has other options this might not be so all-consuming.

I would speak to the childs mother and ask her if shes aware her darling child is a horrid little bully.

Children of her age shouldn’t have pencil cases in school because of this. I would speak to the teacher and also encourage her to avoid this child when possible.If the teacher doesn’t seem to be taking it seriously then ask to speak to the head. Ask the two children she likes out to do something nice.