My son and his group of friends are good kids, they aren't perfect and have their moments like any other 11 year olds but they are nice, inclusive boys who are well liked and have never been in trouble at school. They are due to start secondary school in a couple of weeks.
The issue we are having is with the mum of one of the boys "Joe" they were at school with. He has scoliosis and his mum has spent his entire life wrapping him in cotton wool and "fighting his corner", they are rude, obnoxious and expect everyone around him to drop their plans to accommodate him. Joe is a bit of a bully himself, he constantly puts his hands on the boys, pulling them about and pushing them, often causing marks. Despite being asked to stop, he continues. His mum won't hear a word against "Joe" and refuses to believe that he is a problem.
The boys tolerate him and let him play but they really don't really like him. His mum claims its because he is disabled and has regularly accused them of disability discrimination and bullying, the fact is, the kid is not nice. This has been going on since the lads were 5/6. In hindsight we should have nipped it in the bud back then but we took the stance of "Don't rise to it , ignore it and she will move on".
If they were playing football or tag at school, she makes complaints that the boys are leaving him out as he cant join in (there are roughly 50 kids in the school year so its not as if there are no other kids he can play with - unfortunately because of his attitude and the contestant complaints from his mum no one wants to play with him).
The boys have left school now and are enjoying their summer holiday. They all have games consoles and mobile phones. They have several WhatsApp chat groups that parents monitor. Their chat consists mainly of sending each other video clips and organising trips to the park and they play various games online together. "Joe" joins in occasionally but the boys block him more often than not due to the temper tantrums when he doesn't win or get his own way. He also calls the boys by phone over and over (think 40 odd calls in the space of 5 minutes on a regular basis).
Between us mums we are constantly receiving messages from "Joes" mum accusing the boys of bullying. Last week the kids were playing a game where its last man standing and they have to kill everyone else (lovely game!). I got a message accusing my son of bullying because he killed "Joe" in the game (the whole point of the game!!) I shut it straight down and told her not to contact me again about a non issue. Blocked both her and Joe so they couldn't contact either me or my son. Whenever the boys block him he just gets another phone number and gets in touch again.
The latest incident was something stupid, "Joe" caused problems within one of the group chats and the boys were calling him out on it. He denied causing the problems but the screenshots proved it was him. His mum came in on the group chat, spoke to the boys directly and accused them of bullying and threatened to report them to the police and their new school for bullying. She sent various message to the parents to which we all told her that there was no bullying going on as we could all see the chats, the boys genuinely hadnt done anything wrong and "Joe" was, yet again, the issue.
She has threatened to speak to the police and speak to the new school.
I dont know where to go from here. I dont want my son starting a new school with threats and complaints hanging over his head when he hasn't done anything wrong. It feels like "Joes" mum has a real hate campaign going on towards our boys. Should i speak to school to pre warm them of this issue and the constant threats we have been having over summer or leave it until school get in touch if/when she does complain?
We have, yet again, blocked them both on all platforms. Its just a matter of time before they get new numbers/profiles and the cycle starts again.
It feels like harassment but I dont want to waste police time over something that is more of an ongoing annoyance.