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So called best friend trying to stop me applying for a job where she works

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MidnightWarriormum · 12/07/2025 20:15

Hi all.
Where to start....I'm trying to get back into work after having my daughter and have been doing some beauty courses as I want to be a MUA. I helped my friend get a job in a department store by being her model, although she kept the job a secret at first because she didn't want me applying for it. When I asked her why she didn't tell me ,she brushed it off and then said once she got the job she would be able to help me get a job also.
She got the job!
Roll on a couple of months and I haven't really seen or heard from her and have been doing my own thing looking for work. An opportunity came up at that store and I had a good interview and got down to the last 2...but the interviewer is keeping me in mind for anything else that comes up because she said she was really impressed with me, in fact she's already contacted me about a potential postion.
Out of the blue my friend asked me to come round and we started talking about her job and then I told her that along with my course I'm hoping to get a part time job at the department store. She got angry and said she didn't want me working there. So I told her I'd already applied and had an interview, she literally went crazy on me, screaming and shouting and swearing and at one point waving a knife around. She keep saying why are you doing this to me, trying to copy me and trying to copy my life. In fact it's the other way around, shes been literally coping loads of what i do.
She tried to make out I'm a stalker. She shouted at me that if I tried to get a job there,she would tell her manager that I'm stalking her ....I now don't know what to do, if I go to them about it, it will look bad on me and they probably won't hire me and if I report her I don't know what she will do. She has proven to me now that she is unhinged, I had been giving her the benefit of the doubt as she has alot of issues in her life.I and I felt sorry for her tbh.
I really want this job ,but if I got it she would make trouble for me and get others on side that she as formed friendships with already and I will be outnumbered....I've been working so hard to better myself and get my dream job, I'm so upset.
I'd be grateful for any constructive advice🙏

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CoastalCalm · 12/07/2025 20:17

I wouldn’t do anything for now just see if your contact gets in touch but would you really want to work with her now anyway ?

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 12/07/2025 20:20

It all sounds very immature, accusing you of copying etc. I think if you were offered the position and you wanted the job, you should take it.

MidnightWarriormum · 12/07/2025 20:21

CoastalCalm · 12/07/2025 20:17

I wouldn’t do anything for now just see if your contact gets in touch but would you really want to work with her now anyway ?

She sent me a nasty message the next day saying she had gone to her manager.

The job isint working with her, it's on a different consession within the store, but in the beauty department....its definitely put me off.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/07/2025 20:24

Report her to who? If she was literally waving a knife around in a threat I’d find a job elsewhere personally, who can be bothered with the drama really.

Meadowfinch · 12/07/2025 20:31

People often recreate themselves when they get a new job or move to a new town or university.

It sounds like she has built a 'new her' and she feels vulnerable, having part of her old life turn up at her work. Perhaps she compartmentalised.

You could see how your application progresses but if it doesn't come to anything, I'd leave it and apply to spas and beauticians elsewhere. It really doesn't sound worth all the bother.

MidnightWarriormum · 12/07/2025 20:33

TiptoeThroughTheToadstools · 12/07/2025 20:20

It all sounds very immature, accusing you of copying etc. I think if you were offered the position and you wanted the job, you should take it.

Yes, she's proved how immature she is. Usually she is sweetness and light to everyone. Babe this etc.
I really want the job, but I already know she will make my life Hell.

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MidnightWarriormum · 12/07/2025 20:37

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/07/2025 20:24

Report her to who? If she was literally waving a knife around in a threat I’d find a job elsewhere personally, who can be bothered with the drama really.

Only her manager....but then they might not believe me anyway.
No I definitely don't want the drama and I have now blocked her on everything.
The downside is nowhere else locally as that kind of job.

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NeverOneBiscuit · 12/07/2025 20:38

No job would be worth this level of hassle. D'you really want to work somewhere where your ex friend works, an ex friend who threatened you with a knife?!

MidnightWarriormum · 12/07/2025 20:41

Meadowfinch · 12/07/2025 20:31

People often recreate themselves when they get a new job or move to a new town or university.

It sounds like she has built a 'new her' and she feels vulnerable, having part of her old life turn up at her work. Perhaps she compartmentalised.

You could see how your application progresses but if it doesn't come to anything, I'd leave it and apply to spas and beauticians elsewhere. It really doesn't sound worth all the bother.

Yes I get what your saying and I kind of get that and she flits from one thing to the other anyway. Nothing ever seems to last with her.

She knows I've been waiting for a position to come up on the beauty counters that's why she didn't tell me and unfortunately not alot going in my area work wise.

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surreygirl1987 · 12/07/2025 20:46

Whaaaat?! She sounds insane! At the very least, cut her out of your life. What a maniac!

Catherine3436 · 12/07/2025 21:38

Nah, don’t work with her she will make your life hell. Something else will come up.

xxxwd · 13/07/2025 08:40

A knife? Like she went into the drawer and took out a kitchen knife purposely to threaten you? Or she was buttering bread and used the knife in a hand gesture to emphasise her point?

Isitreallysohard · 13/07/2025 08:43

MidnightWarriormum · 12/07/2025 20:15

Hi all.
Where to start....I'm trying to get back into work after having my daughter and have been doing some beauty courses as I want to be a MUA. I helped my friend get a job in a department store by being her model, although she kept the job a secret at first because she didn't want me applying for it. When I asked her why she didn't tell me ,she brushed it off and then said once she got the job she would be able to help me get a job also.
She got the job!
Roll on a couple of months and I haven't really seen or heard from her and have been doing my own thing looking for work. An opportunity came up at that store and I had a good interview and got down to the last 2...but the interviewer is keeping me in mind for anything else that comes up because she said she was really impressed with me, in fact she's already contacted me about a potential postion.
Out of the blue my friend asked me to come round and we started talking about her job and then I told her that along with my course I'm hoping to get a part time job at the department store. She got angry and said she didn't want me working there. So I told her I'd already applied and had an interview, she literally went crazy on me, screaming and shouting and swearing and at one point waving a knife around. She keep saying why are you doing this to me, trying to copy me and trying to copy my life. In fact it's the other way around, shes been literally coping loads of what i do.
She tried to make out I'm a stalker. She shouted at me that if I tried to get a job there,she would tell her manager that I'm stalking her ....I now don't know what to do, if I go to them about it, it will look bad on me and they probably won't hire me and if I report her I don't know what she will do. She has proven to me now that she is unhinged, I had been giving her the benefit of the doubt as she has alot of issues in her life.I and I felt sorry for her tbh.
I really want this job ,but if I got it she would make trouble for me and get others on side that she as formed friendships with already and I will be outnumbered....I've been working so hard to better myself and get my dream job, I'm so upset.
I'd be grateful for any constructive advice🙏

How big is the company, personally working with a best friend could get awkward so that's probably why, it's also a little bit encroaching tbh, even though you have every right to work there. Not sure I'd love it if a family member or similar applied for job where I worked (it has actually happened, but they were huge companies)

KeepCalmAndPretendItIsOnTheLessonPlan · 13/07/2025 08:46

Friendship over.
It's all gone Single White Female regardless of who did what first.
Your application and interview skills are clearly good enough to get down to the last two, so you need to apply in other outlets even if that means a commute.

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