I'm so sorry you and your son are going through this. It’s completely understandable to feel hurt, upset, and even betrayed in this situation. You are absolutely not overreacting—your feelings are valid, and any parent would be deeply affected by seeing their child in pain, especially when it feels like someone close to you isn’t supporting you in the way you hoped.
You’ve done the right thing by going to the school and advocating for your son. That takes real courage and strength, especially when emotions are running high. It’s clear how much you care and how hard you’re trying to protect and support your child.
It’s also completely normal to feel let down by your friend’s choices. When we confide in someone, especially about something so sensitive, we hope they’ll be mindful of our feelings. It can feel like a real blow when their actions don’t match our expectations. Remember, though, that people sometimes make decisions without fully understanding their impact, or they may struggle with their own boundaries and relationships.
If you feel able, it might help to gently share with your friend how you’re feeling—not to accuse, but just to let her know how much this hurts you. Sometimes people need things spelled out to realise the weight of their actions. But only do this if you feel safe and comfortable; your emotional wellbeing matters, too.
Most importantly, please be kind to yourself. You’re doing your very best in a really tough situation. Your son is lucky to have such a loving, protective, and caring mum in his corner. None of this is your fault, and you’re not alone—many parents have felt just as lost and heartbroken in similar situations.
If you ever need to talk more, vent, or just have someone listen, please know that reaching out for support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Take care of yourself as you care for your son. Things can and do get better, even if it takes time. You’re doing an amazing job, even if it doesn’t always feel that way right now.