AUTISTIC CHILD BEAT MY EPILEPTIC CHILD !!!

[Lilsterxo]

My child goes to school with a child who is autistic. My child was friends with this child but has hit her a few times now but we have forgiven her as like I say they are ‘friends’ the hitting was a wee slap previous times happened over a space of a few years and happened in school but on Saturday we went to her birthday party. Meanwhile other children from my child’s class were there playing in the child’s room. The child had then gotten angry as she doesn’t really like my child interacting with the other kids and becomes quite jealous and the child beat her. This child had punched her in the head, kicked her in the head aswell as the stomach. My child had red marks all over her, a fat lip. My child was very upset as you can imagine. My child is also epileptic and the sweetest kindest soul you’ll ever meet. She did not deserve this. I feel like crying. Her mum then grabbed her as soon as she could. My child flew out the house into the garden and got onto the trampoline, this child then got out of her mums restraint an flew onto the trampoline where my child was an kicked her and punched her for a second time while my child was curled up crying and taking it. We all got involved and pulled her off. She then went for her a 3rd time. My child has also has had many grand mal seizures which has had a huge impact on her brain. I feel so hopeless and so angry ! Her mother doesn’t discipline her child. She lets her watch squid games, pennywise the clown. This child says she ‘loves the devil’. She has said before she’s going to kill people too. Her mother won’t buy her any animals because she believes she will kill them but this attack was a nasty frenzied attack. She wanted to hurt her more and more an it’s like she was possessed tbh. She is a lot stronger and bigger than my daughter. The punches she was throwing and kicks were so powerful. What do I do from here? A few people have told me to do the same her mum that her daughter has done to mine but that isn’t wise and I don’t want to be showing myself up not the playground. I am heartbroken and furious my child has to endure this. It is just pure evil. She only targets my child as she knows she vulnerable and won’t hit her back whereas the children will. So to me this is controlled and not really down to autism. Just a evil nasty nasty bully. Can anyone give me advice please? I believe she will go for her again in school so until I’ve spoken to her teacher and the head she will NOT be attending.

How old are the children? You need to report this to social services as a safeguarding risk (the horror and violence they’re allowed to see and the lack of discipline) and obviously the fact that she’s hurt another child. Potentially also to the police.

They are 7. The child scares me tbh. I believe now she will murder my child and I’m not even exaggerating when I say that.

Social services are involved. Mental health teams etc nothing seems to be changing. The child shouldn’t even be in mainstream especially when violent like this! I just think the child is evil. She shows signs of pure evil. I have always said this since day 1 as finds evil things hilarious. Way more to it than ‘Autism’

At 7 you need to be making a call to social services urgently and detailing your concerns with the school. Your child will need to be in education so either the school will have to ensure there’s no contact between the children and you’ll be happy with that, you’ll home educate or you’ll change schools. Obviously she’s in danger in the school around her but you need to prove it and one instance of violence from a known autistic and volatile child won’t be enough to warrant keeping your child out of education.

Can you safely have no contact with the child or the mother again?

It’s great that social services are involved already but make the call and log it as an incident. She’s too young for the police to get involved properly so everything will need to go through social services first.

Apparently police cannot do anything until she is 10. I’m hoping she is moved out the school by then because if she’s like this now what will she be like when she’s 12? I’m lucky my daughter didn’t seizure with getting blows to the head. She rules the roost in her house.

Is there no way to move your own child from the school for her safety and your mental health?

Yes. I’m hoping school will keep her away from my daughter but a class of 28 and one teacher is going to be hard for them. The teacher only has to have her back turned for a second and she will have her I think. I will call them in the morning and let them know about the incident. I just know she will try to have her again in school tomorrow because my daughter doesn’t want to play with her anymore. So she will be mad about that and attack her. My daughter has lots of friends and is very likeable in school so hoping her other friends will look after her (not the friends that were at the party they just stood there) not many of the kids parents will let their kids anywhere near tbh

My child is well settled in school. Has lots of friends and is very liked by the teachers. I’m just hoping that they get rid of her sooner as they’re already trying but there’s no places in a SEN school at the minute but hopefully if I let them know they can note it an social services will hopefully be notified by it too. The other parents that were there were in complete shock as they’d also seen it happen

You’ve said you’ll think this other child will attack and even kill your daughter but you want to leave her in school because she’s got friends?

The local authority can only do so much. You may need to pull her out or risk her wellbeing if you genuinely think it’s going to happen again. They won’t pull her out of school for an incident that happened outside of school.

I will think it will help against there case against this child. I just don’t see why my child should have to move where she is settled and loves her friends etc it would break her heart to leave the teachers and children tbh as she’s doing really well in the school academically

Because she’s at risk of being severely beaten and in your own words, killed.

It’s not fair but it’s life. You’re either protecting her or the threat is so minimal you’ll carry on as you are hoping reporting the incident outside of school gets the other girl kicked out of school (highly highly unlikely).

Maybe I should move her. I mean she’s slapped her in school but never nothing as bad as Saturday. No where near. I have been hit by this child myself. She hasn’t hit her for a while probably December time it was. Not that it matters tbh. The school did put things in place at the time. I’m just hoping they can keep her away from her. I will look into it because I guess you’re right I do think she will kill her especially now my child wants no involvement with her so she will peed off about that and then sees her playing with her friends as she would seclude her from them etc but we felt sorry for her because no one else really plays with her etc and I think my daughter did too

This sounds horrendous. I would move my child and ve clear thst you are doing this as you don't believe she will be safeguarded in school. I would raise this with the head a few also governors. Your poor child.