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Hi, so I think I need a bit of perspective or advice. I've been working in a local authority (council) for the last 6 years. I work with Dr's ,Social workers, Nurses and support staff. This guy (mid 20's) started about 18 months ago as a Newley qualified nurse. He is senior to me (I am only support staff). He is white. I've noticed with my whites colleagues he is open, chatting, laughing. Makes an effort with them. Hel walk past my desk and say good morning to them, offer to get something they need from the shop for lunch etc hel get into a full blown conversation with my colleagues (in a group) and ignore me. I have tride to make an effort to speak to him (like i do with everyone else) but he will reluctantly speak to me, speaks in a very hurried manner, and very quietly where I can hardly here him. He only does this to me, as he's normally very loud and cockey. Comes across as a bit of 'jack the lad'. I am Asian (British born and raised, a local woman in my 40's). I have tried to be friendly, polite (just normal like I am with everyone else). I'm always super busy and don't always get a chance to talk a lot and am also part time, (while the others are full time). I find others always stop and have a chat with me and I still try to make the effort also. (Christmas I gave everyone a card including him and brought two tins of chocolates for the team). It's not my festival (as not Christian) but I thought be nice to make the effort with everyone incuding him. I've never had any issues with anyone. I get on well with the rest of the team. I'm starting to wonder is this guy a racist? (I hate using that reason as I believe it's not a reason to be taken lightly) I have no proof apart from seeing him treat me differently compared to everyone else. Christmas time was weird, went for a meal and the local and I actually got a smile from him but he would not speak to me. He chatted to my male colleague (who I get on with really well) and was stood by our table opposite me, chatting away to him for ages again, avoiding speaking to me. He fancies my colleague, and didn't say a word to her on the doo, yet in the office all over her again which I find amusing and confusing! I just can't work him out and don't want to. I just want to do my job and come home and forget about it. He makes me feel uncomfortable, and very crappy about myself as well as left out and iscolated from the team. I don't know if it's just arrogance or just interested in ever making conversation with me or just racist. I can't prove it. Sorry for the long essay ! Any advice or your thoughts would be really appreciated! Thanks in advance